Dreaming of loved ones thst have past

[cryptix]

So recently my partner has passed away.8 first 2 dreams I've had he let me know he was OK and was laughing in another.
The other day in my defense of a situation I've had spoken against him and now I keep having dreams he is ignoring me (walks away from me in my dreams,which tbh he would do this in my dreams alot when he was here and healthy...we never argued etc) last night I dreamt he was renewing his rows with his wife (it was her clearly but him I could only see the back of)
I don't know I'm writing this here tbh but these dreams are having a devastating effect on my mental health so much so that I'm afraid to sleep but im afraid to be awake because I cannot stop over thinking them all.
I don't want to be alive because I miss him so much but I'm scared of kms as I fear he won't be with me in a next life
I know this is very deep but honestly I don't know where I can write this and need to get it off my chest.my friends are trying my best to help but I can sense I'm draining them.

 

[ginkypig]

Hi, the truth is nothing I will say is going to change anything but I wanted to tell you someone has seen what you wrote.

these dreams are almost certainly coming from how you are feeling (but not focusing on because you need to live) so it’s coming out while you sleep as your defences are down.

can I suggest you look at grief counselling? You need a way to process everything.it is all swirling in your head and you need a space to pour it out in a safe place so you can put it back in in a calm way and say the things you are scared of saying out loud or to people who know you Incase they judge you.

it hurts because you loved him. If it didn’t hurt you would feel worse about feeling guilty but it will become more bearable over time. Eventually the pain will be in a place where you can live next to it rather than in it.

im really really sorry you lost your partner my lovely and I’m sorry I can’t help take the pain away for you! But I see you iv heard you and while no one can know the reality you are not alone! Other people have been where you are and there will be people who you can talk to.

 

[HelloStereo]

I'm so sorry for your loss .

I think sometimes things in our subconscious or that are on our mind that we try to suppress come out in our dreams. I would gently suggest that you speak to a therapist or grief counsellor as suggested above. What you've been through is hugely devastating, and I think anyone might need someone to talk to or lean on after going through something like that.

 

[cryptix]

Thankyou both I'm in such a dark place I just needed to let this out somewhere
My friend has suggest a grief counsellor,I go to chapel of rest I begged my fiancee to come to. E in my dreams to tell me he's ok with me but all I get is nothing or the fact he's re newing his vows with the ex.i cry so hard begging him to help me through it I even said I'd let him go back to her if he can't help me.
I wish I'd never said anything against him I just mentioned that I thought he could of see his children etc behind by back and that he could of tried harder now I feel he's punishing me for it...but at the time I was annoyed I found out from his daughter her dad had said that I have abandonment issues which I do but begged him never to say anything.i guess I was hurt he had told her that so I defensively said it wasn't just her i had issues with and i get them with my better to.
I feel I'm in a nightmare I can't wake up from I've no escape awake or asleep.

 

[annanuttall]

My sister died last year of cancer and I know for a fact she has visited me in my dream. before she died we both would talk about this - having people who died visit us in our dreams so it is not a surprise I have visitation from her.
What made me think it was real was that not long after she and I saw her in my dream, I was coming out of dialysis one day and a single white perfect feather was waiting for me outside. I believe it is a sign from her.

@cryptix You need to relax your mind and spiritual self for spirits to come through. I have been trying to teach my mum this as she suffered greatly when she died (it was my sister and her other daughter) and I got her grief counselling at the end of last year; which did help her with her grief. My mum gave up taking her medications and was declining so I took action myself and my mum was really grateful for it.
You can always visit a spiritual church and ask to see a medium there.
Try to meditate and write down your feelings. Writing really, honestly will help.
If you really want a connection from the other side - go see a psychic (a proper one, I can recommend one if you like), that will help.
Try not to over think your subconscious.

 

[cryptix]

Thankyou I'm going to try to relax my brain.i love talking about him and I do alot in the car

 

[annanuttall]

Thankyou I'm going to try to relax my brain.i love talking about him and I do alot in the car

Go and find some spiritual meditation on YouTube; that will help. Reading can also help (and that does not include tattle—find a good book to delve into). When you are ready and feel more relaxed, just ask to see him in your dream (if the spirit is ready - he might not want to be disturbed and be left in peace) and he will appear.
My sister often still come into my dream but as a background figure, so the other night she was a passenger of a car in a dream I was having. It was only when you wake up, you realised she was there quietly observing.

 

[cryptix]

Go and find some spiritual meditation on YouTube; that will help. Reading can also help (and that does not include tattle—find a good book to delve into). When you are ready and feel more relaxed, just ask to see him in your dream (if the spirit is ready - he might not want to be disturbed and be left in peace) and he will appear.
My sister often still come into my dream but as a background figure, so the other night she was a passenger of a car in a dream I was having. It was only when you wake up, you realised she was there quietly observing.

I find this very reassuring I just need to try and relax my brain it's prooging hard.

 

[annanuttall]

I find this very reassuring I just need to try and relax my brain it's prooging hard.

Sometimes, I find it hard to relax my brain (especially if it is 1 a.m. and you are desperately trying to sleep but know you will have to be up at the crack of dawn to do dialysis). Just get comfortable, close your eyes, and generally clear your mind. Put on some music (soft, gentle music) and relax your body.

@cryptix I just thought of something else. I'm 100% sure my aunt on my dad's side once came to me in a dream. Now I never met my aunt on my dad's side so that what makes it strange.
I dreamt I was facing a mirror in a bright place and a woman approach me and said, 'Here is a list of how to feel powerful', I replied back who are you? She replied back, your dad would know who I am, I haven't seen you since you were a little baby, I'm on your dad's side. I gave her a hug** and I woke up.
The morning I called my parents first thing in the morning and told them and they both immediately thought it was my aunt on my dad's side as they both confirmed she hadn't seen me since I was a little baby and she died a few years ago.
So that is reassuring.

**hug** What made the hug strange was that I hugged her, I never hug anyone in my dream and i also hugged my sister when she came to me which makes me think it real.

I believe I was having spiritual feelings due to me going on dialysis and being a complete mess - emotionally and mentally. And this was their way to reassure me that everything will be ok. I still feel them around me and they often give me futurue-event dream (i had one of me going into hospital to have a transplant) and I often see odd times (333) or feather everywhere i go.

Don't just look for sign in a dream, look for sign else where like times (numology - like 333 ) or feathers everywhere you go or even a robin. Robin suppose to have spiritual property. xx

Sorry I rambled on enough. I'm here if you need anything. xx

 

[Piff paff puff]

So recently my partner has passed away.8 first 2 dreams I've had he let me know he was OK and was laughing in another.
The other day in my defense of a situation I've had spoken against him and now I keep having dreams he is ignoring me (walks away from me in my dreams,which tbh he would do this in my dreams alot when he was here and healthy...we never argued etc) last night I dreamt he was renewing his rows with his wife (it was her clearly but him I could only see the back of)
I don't know I'm writing this here tbh but these dreams are having a devastating effect on my mental health so much so that I'm afraid to sleep but im afraid to be awake because I cannot stop over thinking them all.
I don't want to be alive because I miss him so much but I'm scared of kms as I fear he won't be with me in a next life
I know this is very deep but honestly I don't know where I can write this and need to get it off my chest.my friends are trying my best to help but I can sense I'm draining them.

I'm so sorry you have lost your partner
And I know your life will never be the same without them. I'm sure your friends would rather be drained than have to be told you are no longer alive. Please speak to Samaritans or perhaps your local church, even if you haven't been before. They sometimes have a pastoral care team who are ready to help anyone in their community that needs it. X

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

I have been asking my mum for a visit or a sign, anything really and I was up most of the night last night when I eventually fell asleep I dreamed I was walking in a car park and saw my mum and said oh my god it’s you, it’s really you and all she said was I miss you. That woke me up and then in my next dream she was at home normally? My sister (in my dream) kept saying you need to ask mum for the time if she tells you the time it’s real if not you’re dreaming and she couldn’t tell the time. No idea what it means but I hope the first one was a little message? X

 

[sam0206]

I don't have fertility issues or anything like that but I always have such vivid dreams about either being pregnant or having a young baby. They're so vivid that I wake up confused as to where my baby/bump have gone. I feel a bit like I've been punched in the gut when I realise it was all just a dream and even for a few days after the dreams I feel the same punched in the gut feeling. It's weird because I don't particularly want to be pregnant or have a baby but the days following those dreams it's literally all I can think about or want.
I can't imagine what people who struggle to conceive must feel like.