Does it matter ?????????
no offence but.... this is an actual reason to start a thread?!
no offence but.... this is an actual reason to start a thread?!
but the act of setting up a thread to get other people opinions means it’s an issue for youI spent a total of 30 seconds creating a thread, not weeks penning a book
If you don't care you could just not reply
and this might be why they’re slightly ungrateful and upset about the cousins get more cashWell that's nice isn't it?
No. Wait for this.
I spent a total of 30 seconds creating a thread, not weeks penning a bookDoes it matter ?????????
no offence but.... this is an actual reason to start a thread?!
I agree esp if they are at the age when they will notice.Should treat them equally in my opinion
I'm far older than your children (far older)... And my sister is 8 years older. We're the only grandchildren, when our Granda died, he left a cash gift for each of us. He did similar, my sister getting more, double in fact. We didn't mind, he was like that all his life, the elder one getting more. It's a family joke now. . But no, for your situation. It's not bloody right. Maybe raise it with humour, but to be honest if the children were not bothered (yours) you've raised them well. But if not handled properly it will bring problems into adulthood.Found out that over Christmas when my two children stayed with their grandparents with their two cousins they were given some spending money.
Well that's nice isn't it?
No. Wait for this.
Mine were the youngest two.
The youngest for £1
Second youngest £2
Second oldest £3
Oldest £4
Why would you do this? To make a point? Apparently he was happy that it made an equal £10.
Anyone else had this? The age gaps aren't even that much really. Not like one is 16 and another is 2. So they all knew the difference
I think she's grateful but I also agree that if you're going to do it for one it should be the same for everyone, unless there was a genuine reason to do otherwise. I wouldn't be too concerned in this scenario as at the end of the day, it is only a few pound, but I don't think that mentality works for every situation like this.Maybe I missed the part about being grateful that you get money from grandparents
Maybe I’m showing my age but no one owes anyone anything or has to give you anything
It’s this mentality that annoys me
If it bothers you that much give it back, tell the grandparents don’t give them money. Job done
That's my issue, it's not about the money about but that they are treated differently. As a parent I would never great my children differently. I couldn't imagine giving four times more to one.I think it does matter if kids know the difference,
Its not fair that the eldest gets the most.
My 3 kids are all given £2 a week pocket money from their Grandparents, my youngest was given a £2 coin while other two were given 2 x £1 coins each. We had to explain that its the same.
If the Grandparents can't treat their Grandchildren the same then they shouldn't bother at all. I had this with my in laws as they spoilt their granddaughter more (as she was 1st girl born in 41 years) than their 2 grandsons - i did have a row with her and told her to treat them the same or don't bother at all.
Personally its not all about the money BUT its the principle of treating children unfairly, I would have a conversation with them and ask them why they have done that even say it sarcastically if you wish