Be More Pacific
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I'm going to be absolutely brutal. Yes, you are being selfish and, if you keep on pushing this and pressuring him, you will lose him - he'll either leave you or take his own life. It sounds like he's mentally checked out of the relationship right now anyway and maybe that's another reason he doesn't want to buy a house especially as it involves him putting down close to £40,000 of his inheritance.
I understand that you have a on your plate right now and I do sympathise but I get the impression you think he's been taking the piss (which is understandable given some of his behaviour) It sounds like he is doing everything he can to keep his head above water and he also has the added pressure of being (I imagine) the sole breadwinner. For Christ's sake, he's been off work for four months with a nervous breakdown, just gone back on a phased return and then you decide now is right time to start on about buying a house AGAIN. You are pushing way too hard and I'm not surprised he is finding excuses. Being a home owner is not the bee all and end all, no matter what fucking Kirsty and Phil tell you, and, as Yel says, brings a whole host of new problems especially renovating (been there, done that and it effectively ended my previous relationship as well)
Just lay off him, hang tight and let him get well again. Then and ONLY then can you really make any decisions about your future. There will always be houses.
I understand that you have a on your plate right now and I do sympathise but I get the impression you think he's been taking the piss (which is understandable given some of his behaviour) It sounds like he is doing everything he can to keep his head above water and he also has the added pressure of being (I imagine) the sole breadwinner. For Christ's sake, he's been off work for four months with a nervous breakdown, just gone back on a phased return and then you decide now is right time to start on about buying a house AGAIN. You are pushing way too hard and I'm not surprised he is finding excuses. Being a home owner is not the bee all and end all, no matter what fucking Kirsty and Phil tell you, and, as Yel says, brings a whole host of new problems especially renovating (been there, done that and it effectively ended my previous relationship as well)
Just lay off him, hang tight and let him get well again. Then and ONLY then can you really make any decisions about your future. There will always be houses.