I’m so pleased to read how positive you’re feeling! Yes, must feel like an ultimate conclusion, with nothing left unanswered. Yes the future is exciting! Closure, however it comes about, is so important to be able to move forward. I still don’t feel like I’ve got that with my exOh Belle! Thank you. I’m honestly ok, this is more closure than I’m normally used to or would ever expect and it’s because I have no doubt I was right to walk away the first time. I feel vindicated. And I honestly know I’ve not been the drama in this one. He’s already messaged twice as if everything is normal. I can’t block him because of work, but he is archived now and I will not be reading, although from the preview he seems to be blaming his hangover. I tried, and I was kind and I’m proud of how I’ve held myself through all of this.
Actually feel excited for what comes next. It’s such a clean line this time and the way I’m wired, once that happens I just accept the happy memories, let the other stuff go, and move on. It was the not knowing that was making me question myself.
I’m in touch with him again, after I decided I couldn’t abruptly stop talking to him permanently like that. Turned out he’d had a crap week too, which explains why, ironically, after I decided to pull back for a bit, I felt a pull back from him too. He had to endure seeing his ex, so that more than explains it. He’s told me briefly about what was going on with them and not agreeing a settlement, and I just (privately) think she’s seeking to push his buttons to get what she wants. I’m not involved, and he’s not trying to involve me, and nor am I judging either of them, except I cannot objectively think of a reason for her to drop by, other than to wind him up. At least I know this is nothing to do with me/us and everything to do with him getting through the emotions when these hurdles come up. I shall continue to give it a light touch and see if he continues to step towards me while he moves forward with the divorce. Meanwhile, I’ll see what further crappy conversations await me online!