Dating after lockdown #12 It’s all got a bit dark

[Clementine]

Yeah, these type of men are not to be relied upon. Until they grow up and realise the world doesn’t revolve around them, you’re on a hiding to nothing.

I’d never been in a relationship like that and it was before ghosting was even a term. I just thought he was tortured and sad…. Like NoseyNiamh, I thought my love would help. Destroyed myself in the process.

 

[NoseyNiamh]

Thanks all for not judging me. I think I'm just worried that it could have caused a brain injury.
Alcohol has put in me in some dreadful positions.

Sorry, I shouldn't use the term breakdown so flippantly. I'm just going through a bad stage. I am in therapy and I think it has brought up things I had buried.

I will go to Minor Injuries clinic tomorrow morning.

Thank you so much everyone. Just by admitting to you guys that I have an issue with booze has helped

 

[Clementine]

Would you try to get help with the drinking? Tell your therapist about it? x

 

[HelloStereo]

Thanks all for not judging me. I think I'm just worried that it could have caused a brain injury.
Alcohol has put in me in some dreadful positions.

Sorry, I shouldn't use the term breakdown so flippantly. I'm just going through a bad stage. I am in therapy and I think it has brought up things I had buried.

I will go to Minor Injuries clinic tomorrow morning.

Thank you so much everyone. Just by admitting to you guys that I have an issue with booze has helped

The guy who did the Houdini act who I saw yesterday affected me more than I talked about on here. Last month I was going out for drinks most days to get out of the house and using alcohol as an emotional crutch.

No judgement here as I know where you are coming from.

If you ever want to talk it through / just fancy a laugh we're all here

 

[NoseyNiamh]

Would you try to get help with the drinking? Tell your therapist about it? x

Yes, I had a session with them during the week. I can go for weeks without it but I'm a binge drinker. Once I start I don't know when to stop.
Has anyone watched Promising Young Woman? It really makes you think!!

 

[HelloStereo]

Yeah, these type of men are not to be relied upon. Until they grow up and realise the world doesn’t revolve around them, you’re on a hiding to nothing.

I’d never been in a relationship like that and it was before ghosting was even a term. I just thought he was tortured and sad…. Like NoseyNiamh, I thought my love would help. Destroyed myself in the process.

Yeah exactly. He was just thinking about himself and not taking into account how he is making other people feel. If I stayed around he'd keep doing it and it's torturous.

 

[square_spoon]

Thanks all for not judging me. I think I'm just worried that it could have caused a brain injury.
Alcohol has put in me in some dreadful positions.

Sorry, I shouldn't use the term breakdown so flippantly. I'm just going through a bad stage. I am in therapy and I think it has brought up things I had buried.

I will go to Minor Injuries clinic tomorrow morning.

Thank you so much everyone. Just by admitting to you guys that I have an issue with booze has helped

Defo get it checked it tomorrow. Probably nothing but with your head you can never be too sure. <3

 

[NoseyNiamh]

The guy who did the Houdini act who I saw yesterday affected me more than I talked about on here. Last month I was going out for drinks most days to get out of the house and using alcohol as an emotional crutch.

No judgement here as I know where you are coming from.

If you ever want to talk it through / just fancy a laugh we're all here

I could tell it had really affected you.
Alcohol is an escape sometimes

 

[HelloStereo]

I could tell it had really affected you.
Alcohol is an escape sometimes

I was a nervous wreck for about a month. Going through all the scenarios, how we left things, his motivations etc. It's not like I knew him a long time but it was just such odd behaviour I guess.

It is. I also found it was the only way I could relax and sleep too. Working from home meant I didn't have to worry about getting myself to work too.

 

[NoseyNiamh]

I was a nervous wreck for about a month. Going through all the scenarios, how we left things, his motivations etc. It's not like I knew him a long time but it was just such odd behaviour I guess.

It is. I also found it was the only way I could relax and sleep too. Working from home meant I didn't have to worry about getting myself to work too.

Your story was completely different to the normal ghosting stories though. It was absolutely nothing to do with you.
I really don't think he is a bad person, he is obviously going through something at the minute, it still doesn't excuse him not contacting you but I wouldn't take it personally.

 

[HelloStereo]

Your story was completely different to the normal ghosting stories though. It was absolutely nothing to do with you.
I really don't think he is a bad person, he is obviously going through something at the minute, it still doesn't excuse him not contacting you but I wouldn't take it personally.

Yeah like he's a bit of a mess but I don't think he's an hole. It's not like he's online and just ignoring me, he went completely offline.

He also has a completely new number and he took my number again as he didn't have it.

We get on well and I think he's handsome. I think it could have gone somewhere but we will never know now .

 

[misscl4]

Random message from a guy I chatted to and soon realised just split from ex (so not right for me) at 12.30am this morning with ‘Hey x’ honestly what on earths makes him think 1. I’d be up 2. I’d be jumping out of bed to go see him (not doing that for anyone) 3. I want to meet someone I’ve never met in the middle of the night

 

[HelloStereo]

Random message from a guy I chatted to and soon realised just split from ex (so not right for me) at 12.30am this morning with ‘Hey x’ honestly what on earths makes him think 1. I’d be up 2. I’d be jumping out of bed to go see him (not doing that for anyone) 3. I want to meet someone I’ve never met in the middle of the night

"Hey x" isn't exactly the most enticing message either

 

[hereforthememe]

I wanted to ask the guy I'm dating if he was still on the apps but I bottled it kinda hoping he'll bring it up first

 

[PiesAndLattes]

I wanted to ask the guy I'm dating if he was still on the apps but I bottled it kinda hoping he'll bring it up first

How long have you been seeing each other?

 

[hereforthememe]

How long have you been seeing each other?

Twice a week for about 3 weeks now

 

[Cloud_Baby]

Twice a week for about 3 weeks now

I think it’s too early to be having that conversation, it’s very early days.

 

[PiesAndLattes]

Twice a week for about 3 weeks now

Yeah I think a touch early!

 

[hereforthememe]

As you can tell, I have no idea what I'm doing thank you!

 

[hereforthememe]

Are we ever going to hear from Betty and her date?