Coronavirus Disease Outbreak COVID-19 #56

[leoladyxo]

My Grandad had been in hospital with pneumonia for the past two weeks. He caught covid three days ago and died last night. I’m in shock. My Mum visited him so she now has to self isolate and I can’t grieve with her - she’s not very strong mentally and I’m worrying about her so calling regularly. I would be breaking the law to visit her when her isolation period is up as I’m in a Tier 2 area and she’s in a Tier 1.

I can‘t visit my boyfriend because households can’t mix as we are in Tier 2. I am very emotional today and struggling to keep it together.

 

[Tui]

I like reading people’s positives. Keep them coming.
Mine -

I have a nice home which I feel safe in and enjoy spending time in

I have a brilliant husband

My husband and I have secure jobs with a reliable income

I have a great family who are all healthy

I’m 18 weeks pregnant and I *think* I’m starting to feel the baby moving in last day or two (second pregnancy but didn’t get this far last time so not sure what it feels like and if it’s just gas! )

I have a supportive employer who had enabled me to make changes to my working pattern to keep my baby safe

I have a solid group of friends I can rely on

 

[caitlinbullen]

I was thinking today....how I can see some positives? Does anyone want to join in?

- I have wonky teeth but pretty eyes, so masks are my friend. Long live the mask life.

- Lockdown meant that my tight-fisted husband capitulated on my demands for a chest freezer (ongoing since about 2009). I am now living my best middle-class-chest-freezer-owning life.

- I've avoided the stress of 3 kids birthday parties this year. #winning

- I potted flowering plants this year and they are still alive and blooming!A first for me, aged 41. Charlie Dimmock eat your heart out.

- I have been reminded how much I bloody love my own company. Going forward I will happily refuse so many more invites, because I never really appreciated before how much they stress me out.

 

[idk2]

We've had other parents who know another family is struggling (via WhatsApp parents chat) and come in to school and as a group paid for their children's school meals until December. This happened 2 weeks ago and I think about it constantly. Made me and several other teachers bawl in the staff room as we had no idea the family was facing such hardship.

Both parents very affluent high flying jobs in aviation, now on universal credit which doesnt even cover their mortgage, never mind food for their kids.

Edit: We also had parents come in to return their vouchers to give to others as they didn't want to use them if not needed when someone else will need them more. These parents are a pain in the ASS on a normal day but they've filled my heart so much since March.

 

[JLXRD]

Saw this tweet and I thought you guys might appreciate it, especially as there are posts here from such a variety of people having totally different experiences xx

 

[Tui]

I’ve just been sat here on the sofa in floods of tears because I’m so happy can’t wait for movements to get stronger. Only 2 weeks to my next scan and find out if it’s a boy or girl!

 

[birdiefly246]

Lots of people on low incomes are unable to save which means they are just one emergency or unexpectedly high bill away from being in a situation where they can’t afford to feed their children.

When MPs say it’s parents mismanaging money it’s because they want us all to assume that they are all buying themselves luxuries or cigarettes or something because this country loves poverty porn and loves to have some one to blame (I’m sure some people do this - but the majority of people do put their children first.)

This is why the 60% furlough payments are so worrying, even more children are going to be living in poverty. I can’t imagine the worry some people are facing.

EXACTLY!!! I was shocked to learn that there are actually more food banks in the UK than there are mcdonalds!! Idk about your towns but within a 10 mile radius of my house I have 6 mcdonalds. We have a problem that we had way before COVID.

How can you mismanage money you haven't got?! How can you save what's not there?!

Side note
I hate the "oh well they've xyz. They could put that towards their kids instead" -
1. You cannot live in todays society without a phone. Life requires it. You can barely survive on one that just texts and calls nowaday, especially if you're unemployed.

2. They may have had that stuff before they were in poverty, or it could be an old phone/tv that was given to them.

and 3. Are people honestly suggesting that poor people should just sit in a house with nothing in it? Just drawing on the walls for fun cause you shouldn't have a tv or any kind of entertainment if you're poor? Do people not realise how soul destroying being poor is? Christ if fags and a tv help relieve the constant anxiety and stress of it then let people have it. Life is only going to get worse with COVID as well. How are you going to entertain your kids in lockdown with nothing?!


Also, maybe I'm a bit of a socialist but I don't understand why in 2020 we have to debate whether or not to feeds kids. It's a disgrace. Let the kids fucking eat. I'd happily pay more taxes if meant no kid was going to bed hungry and no parent had to worry if their kid was going to be fed.

 

[Barbie2020]

I really do not want a circuit breaker or lockdown. The company my bf works for is close to going under after the first one and keeps getting jobs cancelled. Another lockdown will finish them off. We won’t be able to afford our mortgage on my retail wage. I know that may sound selfish but there are many others in the same situation. We’ve stuck to the rules tried to do our bit for all of this year and yet we’ve still ended up here. I honestly think if you’re in a fortunate enough position to be able to stay at home and work then lockdown sounds a brilliant idea to keep cases down for a few weeks. We are only young, got our wedding coming up next year (probably can’t go ahead) want kids etc and how are we supposed to do that with no money! Yeh it’s awful people are getting Covid but I’ve got family members with cancer who have had treatment delayed or cancelled and live on their own and are struggling with the loneliness. I’ve got bad depression and probably have 1/2 ok days a week at the moment if I’m lucky and all this worrying has sent me over the edge. I’m all for lockdown if people’s wages get covered properly and other life saving treatments keep going but that’s not going to happen is it? I know this is probably a really unpopular opinion on this thread so sorry if I offend anyone.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

These positives are brilliant!

Mine are the difference in when I first posted on here and how anxious it would make me, compared to now where commenting feels more like a conversation with friends.

I'd add to that, the user names that have become so familiar that some of you feel like friends (sorry if that's weird).

Our finances are actually better. This makes me feel very guilty because others are not so lucky. It's a big deal though because we were teetering on the edge of financial crisis prior to Covid.

One of my sons, who before lockdown was on the edge of a breakdown due to ASD/ADHD is now on medication and thriving at school. I think the time away from school really helped him.

I have a job interview next month for what is quite literally my dream job.

Lastly, despite some wobbles, I'm doing ok mentally. I was newly recovered from some very serious depression when lockdown hit and I wasn't sure which way it would go. I do have bad days but I allow myself to feel like that rather than berating myself for being crap.

 

[Tippingpoint23]

I am on the train home and there is a woman talking about how her boyfriend who she lives with has tested POSITIVE and she is on the fucking train - no wonder we are in such a mess when people who live with positive cases are out and about talking about it publicly I am so angry

 

[Platypusfattypus]

My positives

- I have a house with a garden and I really appreciated having somewhere safe for my family.

- I have had to slow right down and I'm really enjoying that.

- I had a breakdown in March which was a long time coming. It's made me realise how amazing my friends are, how amazing my work colleagues are and has meant I've had to put boundaries in place which has benefited me. It's also shown me that it would be OK if I left my job and I wouldn't be letting anyone down.

- Part of my recovery included me having to force myself outside. I'm not a big walker but since late May I have completed nearly 500 miles.

- the last two things culminated in me losing a stone and that's made my confidence grow loads. I've recently joined a gym, something I never have done before and I'm weirdly enjoying it.

- I've gotten really close to my husband again and have loved spending times with my kids.

- I've posted loads more on Tattle and "met" some amazing people on here. Big shout out to my Downing Street honeys who've had me laughing until my sides hurt through out this shitty pandemic.

 

[Youre a wizard Harry]

I liked snake, definitely could have spent months playing it

 

[Justwatching]

Many are saying due to mental health problems they won't cope with another lockdown .I too struggled , but at this point , I'm struggling far more with anxiety in this shitstorm of will he won't he , local tiers, too many rules for each tier, leaders refusing to accept restrictions etc.etc.
I'm struggling with the expectation of having to work and school children and the stresses that entails, for absolutely no social life , holidays , get together with families etc. for an indefinite period of time.
I never thought I'd say it but I would feel more settled with a national lockdown for a set period of time. During which the bloody government listened to the scientists and sorted out a proper testing and tracking system.
All this uncertainty is just a head fuck for me

 

[2020two]

Loved reading all your positives

Lockdown made me realise how abusive my partner really was - and I left! I'm now happy and safe with my children.

Similarly my twins were around 6 weeks old when all this started, I've been able to stay at home with them longer than my maternity typically would have been and have been there for first words, first teeth, first crawl etc. They're almost 9 months old now and I've enjoyed every second at home with them

Also daily lockdown walks shifted my twin baby weight back at my pre baby weight and am thrilled!

 

[Bitofthebubbly]

A pub near me is doing a work from home offer thing where people can basically set up their desk in the pub and get a special offer on tea/coffee and snacks.

I think this is a nice idea for those who struggle with being stuck inside the same four walls whilst wfh.

 

[Lisdiz]

322 MPs have just voted against free school meals for families over the holiday periods. (Till Easter) I am so ashamed of England, doing this during a global pandemic, when families are struggling and people are losing their jobs through no fault of their owns. People who were getting along fine in life suddenly just on or below the poverty line. I am absolutely outraged and emotionally upset. It’s bleeding 2020 and there is no need for children to be going to be hungry.

 

[JLXRD]

This isn’t directly Covid related (well kinda is) and I don’t want to derail but am interested in parents perspective on the Marcus Rashford push as he’s saying many children go to bed hungry every night (I don’t dispute that).

It’s just crazy that that’s a reality in 2020 Britain, being able to feed your child is basic and as a parent I don’t know what else can possibly take precedence over that. I’ve seen some MPs saying it’s the parents fault for mismanaging money but I don’t buy that. What a shitshow it all is, I personally can’t imagine not being able to feed my child (If I had one!) and maybe that makes me ignorant but it’s just thankfully not a lived experience for me. And then voting against extra help in a pandemic, Christ

Lots of people on low incomes are unable to save which means they are just one emergency or unexpectedly high bill away from being in a situation where they can’t afford to feed their children.

When MPs say it’s parents mismanaging money it’s because they want us all to assume that they are all buying themselves luxuries or cigarettes or something because this country loves poverty porn and loves to have some one to blame (I’m sure some people do this - but the majority of people do put their children first.)

This is why the 60% furlough payments are so worrying, even more children are going to be living in poverty. I can’t imagine the worry some people are facing.

 

[gigi_93]

I’ll probably be disagreed with but I’m tired of the praise the PM of New Zealand is always getting. Yes they are “covid free” but it’s a tiny island with a tiny population and she has banned them leaving the country indefinitely, right? So that means everyone in NZ will have zero immunity whatsoever, and unless she locks them in forever (human rights violation?) it’ll make its way back and probably consume them at a later date vaccine or not

 

[Platypusfattypus]

When watching the deaths go up last time there was always the comfort that we were all doing what we could to reduce it. Now it just feels we are watching it go up whilst everyone argues about what to do and no one does anything.

 

[JLXRD]

Just found out my cousin (who is 13) has caught covid in hospital.

He has already been through it this year with what we now know is a tumour on his bladder which has been causing him pain all year only just being discovered - throughout lockdown they just gave him antibiotics for a bladder infection as they were only doing phone appointments. Tuesday rushed to hospital in lots of pain- tested negative on admission. On Thursday he had a scan which showed the tumour and had it removed in surgery on Sunday. Still waiting to find out if it is cancerous which I’m already anxious about but now he’s also caught covid after test yesterday which came back today positive.

I’m really hoping because he is young he will be okay but getting it whilst recovering from surgery is probably not ideal

I know it’s hard to stop the spread in hospitals but it does make me angry that he’s caught it whilst there