Confessions - Get it off your chest!

[Meg78]

Really surprised I couldn’t find a thread for this!

I have a confession to make and am so ashamed I daren’t tell anyone in real life: we hid half of our child’s birthday gifts from friends and family and are holding them back for Christmas, but will say it’s all from Santa Everyone got a thank you note, but our house is already bursting at the seams, I just couldn’t justify having all that come in and then add on Christmas toys too, and thought this way it saves us some space and some cash too, but I feel really icky about it and needed to confess!

Anyone else have something they need to get off their chest?

 

[Peakyblinders]

Im so lonely sometimes

 

[EffingDust]

I’ve lied to get out of nearly every Christening I’ve ever been invited to in the last 20 years.

I always “have to work” or have a social event involving people who don’t know the christening family.

Feel bad lying and I always send money, but literally cannot be fucked with christenings. They’re boring, the buffet is always rubbish, no alcohol and there’s something about a child being foisted into a religion they have no say in that makes me feel a bit weird. But that might be a me problem since I hated being forced to church as a kid.

 

[merlot]

I've just realised I was groomed as a kid.
My mother sent me some old photos of me, I was chuckling at 11 year old me.. until I saw I had my ears pierced...
I was 16 when I got my ears pierced and 16 when i ended up having sex with a family friend 12 years older than me.. who had known me since I was about 7 and always given me so much time, singling me out at family events etc.. making me feel special, buying me pure perfume for my 15th birthday etc, (early 90s so it was so fancy)
but honestly I looked no more than 11 on that photo of 16 y/o me.

What a fucking n.

I'd never ever tell anyone.

 

[RaveChampion]

I called off going to two social gatherings this week. First on Thursday and one this evening (more formal thus more stressful).

I made my excuses on Tuesday by saying I'd tested positive for Covid that morning and didn't want to spread it around.
I've used the time I've gained wisely.
Playing Cyberpunk 2077 and browsing Tattle.

 

[Wophie]

I have a night dress like Becki Jones and it makes my tits look like pitta breads

 

[HeyBabes]

I hate feeling like this because I feel like a huge bitch but I’m really struggling nowadays to be happy for other people. Multiple friends, including my best friend, have gotten engaged or married over the last year, and I’m struggling to be happy for them and most of the time I just feel overwhelming jealousy. I’m still waiting for MrBabes to propose and he has recently told me he has no plans to do so after 8 years together. It just makes me direct my anger at the wrong people now

 

[Closedeyes]

Confession - few weeks ago I went to a get together for a colleagues birthday. I like them but not enough to shell out £25 on a present, you get me? I bought cheap gin, poured some in a sterilised jam jar, added some edible flowers from the back of the cupboard, put a bow round and said I’d brewed it myself from a secret family recipe. Only used a third of the bottle, saved the leftovers for me and cost me about £3!!

 

[rainbowlemon]

Really surprised I couldn’t find a thread for this!

I have a confession to make and am so ashamed I daren’t tell anyone in real life: we hid half of our child’s birthday gifts from friends and family and are holding them back for Christmas, but will say it’s all from Santa Everyone got a thank you note, but our house is already bursting at the seams, I just couldn’t justify having all that come in and then add on Christmas toys too, and thought this way it saves us some space and some cash too, but I feel really icky about it and needed to confess!

Anyone else have something they need to get off their chest?

I don't see the problem with this. You are just spacing them out and it means you don't have to buy extra presents. The items will still be used and loved.

 

[pinkmug]

I don’t think I’m a nice person. I have horrible thoughts about people sometimes. And I don’t want to think that way but I can’t help it, that’s just where my mind goes. I do a decent job of hiding those thoughts and I don’t think anyone in real life would suspect that I’m such a horrid bitch

I once read that the thing that makes someone a good person is not the absence of terrible thoughts but the sense and the conscience to never act on them. If you know that they are horrible thoughts and if you aren't causing anyone pain because of your thoughts and opinions, you're not a bad person. You're just human.

 

[prozacprincess]

I sometimes browse rightmove and choose where I’d move to if my husband died

 

[WeHadFunRight]

I dobbed everyone in at work for personalising hot desks and leaving sh*t all over the floors under the desks. Facilities cleared it all and every time I walk down the office I have a smug little smile to myself because I love a rule.

 

[malibu skies]

Lighthearted: I opened Spotify and looked for a random playlist to stick on in the background. 5 songs in and I was amazed because I loved every song on the playlist. So I had a look and it’s one of my own playlists that I made. No wonder I liked all the songs

Not lighthearted: I don’t think I’m a nice person. I have horrible thoughts about people sometimes. And I don’t want to think that way but I can’t help it, that’s just where my mind goes. I do a decent job of hiding those thoughts and I don’t think anyone in real life would suspect that I’m such a horrid bitch

 

[RaveChampion]

I quit smoking Dec 30th. Been fine till yesterday then started again just like that when I discovered a hidden pack of 20.
Thought at least I'd get a sore throat/cough or something but they're going down smooth as silk.
I'll have to pack it in again tomorrow.Honest.
I feel like "I've let myself down" or some other patronising guff.

It's not a very exciting confession I'll admit. If I have sex with a camel or something I'll confess on here to make amends.

 

[Littleelf]

I think about my ex boyfriend all the time, the one that got away so to speak. It brings me great sadness to be honest. We last saw each other about 13 years ago and I have such fond memories of him

I'm never said a word to anyone because I know how ridiculous it sounds. We've grown up, moved on and are different people now, so I'm pining over an idea of what could have been rather then anything real. I have a partner of 12 years and 2 children now so it really is not worth my time to even think about, but i still do, quite often.

 

[Reality_tv_lover]

I do this thing I think it's called malative day dreaming but it makes me so happy. No one knows I do it in my day dreams I have everything I want and it's usually a group of friends from a TV show (think friends) everyone is how they were but I am there too it's hard to explain

 

[littlepup]

It's OK, thank you though x
It was just a funny realisation when I see how young I look on the photo. (I was a very late developer) what an absolute creep.

I've just shown my boyfriend the photo, asked how old I am on it, he said 10/11? I didn't tell him obviously, it's all a bit embarrassing

Yuck.

I’m sorry you’ve had that realisation not to mention the experience.

In a similar vein but not the same… I really think our understanding of what constitutes abuse has come on so far and it’s jarring for us to realise what we dealt with.
It doesn’t make it ok what any of us went through but there just wasn’t the understanding. I don’t mean in situations of very clear abuse but the general older man vs younger woman. I think parents could be naïve. So many of them left school to work full time at 16 and were married if not parents by their late teens, we weren’t see as children in the same way as you would be now but we absolutely were.
I remember lying about my age to work behind a bar (so my fault?), everyone knew I was still in school but a bar full of men having me reach high or low items to jeer my body every shift, laughing over whether they wanted stuffing with their roast beef, commenting on every aspect of my body, basically propositioning me on a regular basis and besides the sexual stuff they’d never miss a chance to make me look stupid or make out I was a bimbo and so on….
I don’t even want to think about the times as an adult when, looking back, I’ve been too drunk to properly consent in the way you’d understand now.
Thank fuck times have changed.

 

[Cheapseats]

I wont hang my knickers outside on the line. The neighbours must think I dont wear any haha

 

[Pjta]

I feel terrible. My husband has always wanted a big family, I did too but had some health problems with my last baby. I finally agreed to try for another one after lots of healthy discussions and I would ultimately love another baby but my health anxiety is making me freak out and I genuinely don't want to burst his bubble of happiness. It's been two days since I agreed and I feel sick at the thought of breaking his heart.

 

[Codiaeum]

It was me who reported the landlord to (our equivalent of) the council for cutting bushes and small trees during the protection period to help nesting birds.