I can kind of understand what she’s saying but where she is so unlikeable I dread to think how she’s presenting it. It’s like class security isn’t it, when you have money you don’t care about these things as much because you have the other markers of security / comfort, when you don’t it means a lot more as you’re yearning for it?It was a bit of a strange story, it was in a chapter about finances and why managing money is harder for black people. The bugaboo bit was explained by saying black women need to work extra hard to appear presentable or like good mothers, so she needed to have the buggy as a status symbol. Even if they had to skip meals to pay for it. There was a whole bit where she feels the seller was racist towards her which was clearer to understand.
I don’t think there’s anything that unusual about buying things secondhand, and have brought quite a few things for my baby on Facebook marketplace. Maybe I’m just cheap
Also, the recording is 5 hours long which seems surprisingly short. It must be a very slim paperback.
I’m not going to explain this well but I get it having grown up WC and poor, and chubby, I always feel the need to be very well put together because I don’t want to appear that way as an adult, even though I’m now living a solidly upper mc lifestyle (through work not parents lol), and not chubs. Even plus size bloggers talk about it, like skinny girls can get away with the athleisure scruffy waif look and chuck anything on and be deemed naturally stylish whereas they have to do lots of performative femininity to even be treated nicely, a fat girl in joggers is looked down on.
HOWEVER I hope she’s not made women feel any which way about buying second hand. Also I find it ridiculous for her to be making these points when it’s HER bread and butter to program these insecurities into women to get them to buy buy buy using her aff links? You can’t be about that action and also profiting from the problem?