I almost don't know why I am writing this, suppose I just want to get it off my chest.
So, I was with my ex for over a year. In January he asked me to move in with him which I did. In my eyes, we had a great relationship, we loved loads of the same things and also had our own hobbies. In March, we both had a week off work, so we went to a concert, saw my Dad for lunch, went out for dinner just the two of us, saw his friends, caught up with his Mum and Dad etc. Basically had a lovely week together before we both went away on holiday (before COVID-19).
The following week, it was our anniversary so I cooked us a meal and we sat down to eat it. During the meal, he completely broke down and was crying saying he didn't feel happy within himself, and was struggling to get out of bed and things and didn't know what was going on in his head etc. To cut a long story short, it was a very emotional night and I left saying I would give him some space to think about things in his head.
On the Monday, I text him saying that I loved him and that I'm thinking about him and I'm ready to talk whenever he is. He replied saying he still just needs to process things in his head etc. On the Thursday, he changed his profile photo to just him on Facebook, after having it as the two of us for the last year. To cut a long story short, he ended up finishing with me by text. He basically said that he feels like we are two different people and that we have different outlooks on life.
Yesterday, my friend came across him on Tinder so she sent him a message without me knowing, basically saying she thinks it's very disrespectful that he's on Tinder 5 weeks later when my stuff isn't even moved out of his flat and that I haven't really had closure as such. He responded to her saying he doesn't understand how I haven't had closure, he has given me the reasonings for ending it. He said that 5 weeks on, he is confident he made the right decision because we aren't compatible.
What I am struggling with is the below:
1. If we weren't compatible, why would he ask me to move in?
2. If this is how he felt, why would we spend a lovely week together and he told me he loved me two days before he had a break down?
3. Surely you realise you aren't compatible after a few dates or months, not over a year?
4. Why didn't he try and talk to me about things as opposed to just sending me a text and being done with it basically?
It's been 5 weeks and I am really struggling to get my head around it all. It's come as a massive shock and I just feel like I don't understand how things can change overnight
So, I was with my ex for over a year. In January he asked me to move in with him which I did. In my eyes, we had a great relationship, we loved loads of the same things and also had our own hobbies. In March, we both had a week off work, so we went to a concert, saw my Dad for lunch, went out for dinner just the two of us, saw his friends, caught up with his Mum and Dad etc. Basically had a lovely week together before we both went away on holiday (before COVID-19).
The following week, it was our anniversary so I cooked us a meal and we sat down to eat it. During the meal, he completely broke down and was crying saying he didn't feel happy within himself, and was struggling to get out of bed and things and didn't know what was going on in his head etc. To cut a long story short, it was a very emotional night and I left saying I would give him some space to think about things in his head.
On the Monday, I text him saying that I loved him and that I'm thinking about him and I'm ready to talk whenever he is. He replied saying he still just needs to process things in his head etc. On the Thursday, he changed his profile photo to just him on Facebook, after having it as the two of us for the last year. To cut a long story short, he ended up finishing with me by text. He basically said that he feels like we are two different people and that we have different outlooks on life.
Yesterday, my friend came across him on Tinder so she sent him a message without me knowing, basically saying she thinks it's very disrespectful that he's on Tinder 5 weeks later when my stuff isn't even moved out of his flat and that I haven't really had closure as such. He responded to her saying he doesn't understand how I haven't had closure, he has given me the reasonings for ending it. He said that 5 weeks on, he is confident he made the right decision because we aren't compatible.
What I am struggling with is the below:
1. If we weren't compatible, why would he ask me to move in?
2. If this is how he felt, why would we spend a lovely week together and he told me he loved me two days before he had a break down?
3. Surely you realise you aren't compatible after a few dates or months, not over a year?
4. Why didn't he try and talk to me about things as opposed to just sending me a text and being done with it basically?
It's been 5 weeks and I am really struggling to get my head around it all. It's come as a massive shock and I just feel like I don't understand how things can change overnight
