Ooo I had this because she recommended we get married somewhere else than we chose. Pathetic aren’t they. Don’t worry, you’re marrying her son, YOU WIN. Be smug at night when you go to sleep, I doMy future mother in law has been canny until now when she’s just not listening to anything me and my other half are saying about our wedding in October
She’s been on board with most things but me and the other half have made the decision that anyone flying in for the wedding for abroad won’t be coming and they’ve been told . This includes her daughter and grandkids . She keeps saying awww can’t wait to see them and we won’t know until last minute if they can make it in . We’ve told them a few times now no1 from abroad is comingOoo I had this because she recommended we get married somewhere else than we chose. Pathetic aren’t they. Don’t worry, you’re marrying her son, YOU WIN. Be smug at night when you go to sleep, I do
I never understand lolTotally and if my brother hadn’t turned out to be gay then I swear my Mum would have been one of ‘those’ mothers!!
My OH is lovely but duck, does he have issues because of his mum & dad. As we all do. My partner turned a blind eye to his mums behaviour for years, because he thought it was pointless & she would never change. Whilst im sure she will have moments in future of being a twit, she actually is much more considerate now after me & her had it out.I’m curious to know in your experiences, what does your OH think of their parents bad behaviour? And how can someone be so nice with horrid parents??
Its so true. As a mum of boys, it hurts my heart
because it does happen. I will try my hardest not to be that Mil What if you just can’t help but be a Monster In Law?!My OH is lovely but duck, does he have issues because of his mum & dad. As we all do. My partner turned a blind eye to his mums behaviour for years, because he thought it was pointless & she would never change. Whilst im sure she will have moments in future of being a twit, she actually is much more considerate now after me & her had it out.
Its so true. As a mum of boys, it hurts my heart
The fact that you’re aware of it you probably won’t be. My mum genuinely loves my brothers girlfriend but she won’t get involved in their relationship because she knows she wouldn’t win.My OH is lovely but duck, does he have issues because of his mum & dad. As we all do. My partner turned a blind eye to his mums behaviour for years, because he thought it was pointless & she would never change. Whilst im sure she will have moments in future of being a twit, she actually is much more considerate now after me & her had it out.
Its so true. As a mum of boys, it hurts my heart
My mum was a lovely MIL to my brothers wife. She did so much for her. But the wife was an absolute bleep. The wife would be jealous when my mum would do anything for my kids, instead of hers (despite being the babysitter for her kids for their first 5yrs and spoiling them rotten). Bridges well & truely burnt, they no longer talk.What if you just can’t help but be a Monster In Law?!
This sounds a bit like what I went through... my ex was violent and I asked his parents for help but they said because he lived with me he was my problem.
What annoyed me about my exes mother was that she had been in my position with my exes Dad and so she should’ve known it was the old Nature thing, his role model of a man was one that hit women and his role model of a woman was one who put up with being hit, it’s a sad cycle and even though the mothers are being abused then they are still putting their relationship above their child’s needs by staying in it.
and so social work got involved and my daughter was put on the At Risk register because I didn’t leave him after so many times, she was on it for 6 months and in that time then they checked up on me frequently to check that I hadn’t taken him back and if it wasn’t for nearly losing custody of my girl, then I can’t say I definitely would have left when I did. It's scary isn't it my ex used to tell me that his dad beat him up! To this day I dont know if it's true.What annoyed me about my exes mother was that she had been in my position with my exes Dad and so she should’ve known it was the old Nature thing, his role model of a man was one that hit women and his role model of a woman was one who put up with being hit, it’s a sad cycle and even though the mothers are being abused then they are still putting their relationship above their child’s needs by staying in it.
My daughter was 2.5 years old when I started seeing him and there was 40 police call outs in our relationship that lasted 3 years and 5 months, my daughter had been there 13 times/40
I can see why SW remove kids if the mum won’t leave the violent partner, it certainly gave me a kick up the arse, but I’m quite lucky in that the worse a man treats me then I start going off of them naturally and that doesn’t happen to everyone. I pknow women that know their man is violent and still have a baby to them anyway so it’s hard to sympathise when a woman does wreckless things like that.
Thankfully my girl wasn’t his kid so I totally sympathise that you have to stay in touch with your exes parents for your kid.
My ex has had a new girlfriend since 2009 and we split in 2008 and they have had a baby since and because she wouldn’t leave him for him being violent, then their little boy lives with her mother! I can’t believe she chose her violent, non working cocklodger of a boyfriend, rather than her wee boy
My ex has had a new girlfriend since 2009 and we split in 2008 and they have had a baby since and because she wouldn’t leave him for him being violent, then their little boy lives with her mother! I can’t believe she chose her violent, non working cocklodger of a boyfriend, rather than her wee boy
I had this, just without the child! The girl he cheated on me with dumped him about a year later and he’s still single living at his mums now in the spare bedroom and I’m engaged and bought a house with the lovely man I met in the few months after!When I was pregnant (a very high risk pregnancy at that) with my child my ex MIL and the rest of the family, who to my face declared me the best thing to ever happen to her son, I used to go shopping with this woman, evenings out, have drinks with her on a weekend, you get the drift decided when her precious son turned up with his side piece she would welcome her in with open arms and embrace her. Nice
Me and my MIL got in great til she started butting in when we were planning the wedding. It only got worse when I had our sonMy future mother in law has been canny until now when she’s just not listening to anything me and my other half are saying about our wedding in October
They do don’t they?! When my ex and his bird first got together then she and him would send me nasty FB messages and I had split up with him about 9 months before she met him, then 2 years ago she messaged me again apologising for all that she said and this is when she told me that their son didn’t live with her because SW wouldn’t allow it due to her continuation of the relationship, now sometimes abusers have something good about them that keeps the abused woman there, like a good income etc etc, but my ex couldn’t hold down a job and has spent many years on the dole so he has literally NOTHING going for him! Her self esteem must be in tatters
My mum is a brilliant MIL according to my SILs I think it's cos my brother was previously married to a woman who was just horrible and drove him almost to suicide, she knows how lucky she is to have my lovely SILs now
