Hey guys,
My baby was born May 2020 so in first lockdown and has basically spent his life in and out of lockdown. We love in Merseyside so we were in tier 3 from October.
we did baby groups when we could in September/October but none since due to restrictions. Well, some were on zoom but I didn’t want to pay for them as I tried them and baby didn’t react well.
im feeling like a failure of a mum and my baby is behind because of me and I’ve not done enough for him.
I can count on one hand the amount of times my parents have seen him as they live an hour and a half away.
we’ve been in no friends houses since first lockdown.
my baby hasn’t touched another baby or been close to another baby.
We go for walks with my Nct friends so he sees babies in prams and that’s it.
I thought he was fine but now I’ve seen in a May 2020 Facebook group I’m in all these other babies doing things he isn’t.
I wasnt too worried months ago when he was the last to roll and the last to sit (He can do these fine now) but I’ve noticed he’s not babbling, or waving or clapping hands. He doesn’t say mama or dads yet.
To be fair to him I haven’t got him to try and wave or clap hands as I didn’t realise it was a developmental thing the HV would check at his 9-12 month review.
I’ve been so distracted with him today and I’ve been desperately trying to get him to babble and wave.
He loves peek a boo and giggles and smiles when I sing to him - like old macdonald and Hokey Cokey.
he doesn’t recognise his name yet but if you point to something he will look.
no health visitor has been in touch since he was 8 weeks and I feel like I’m meant to be trying all these things with him I don’t do like waving and clapping and telling him to shake a rattle or pass something back to me.
we’re doing baby led weaning and he’s great with that - he’s got a little pincer grip now.
He’s good at object permanence - I hide things with Muslins and he understands they’re under there.
I’m a first time mum and this is the first time I’ve really felt like a failure and I just don’t know what to do.
i guess I’m looking for reassurance from other mums whose babies have maybe babbled and clapped and waved later than 9 months? He’s 9 months today.
My baby was born May 2020 so in first lockdown and has basically spent his life in and out of lockdown. We love in Merseyside so we were in tier 3 from October.
we did baby groups when we could in September/October but none since due to restrictions. Well, some were on zoom but I didn’t want to pay for them as I tried them and baby didn’t react well.
im feeling like a failure of a mum and my baby is behind because of me and I’ve not done enough for him.
I can count on one hand the amount of times my parents have seen him as they live an hour and a half away.
we’ve been in no friends houses since first lockdown.
my baby hasn’t touched another baby or been close to another baby.
We go for walks with my Nct friends so he sees babies in prams and that’s it.
I thought he was fine but now I’ve seen in a May 2020 Facebook group I’m in all these other babies doing things he isn’t.
I wasnt too worried months ago when he was the last to roll and the last to sit (He can do these fine now) but I’ve noticed he’s not babbling, or waving or clapping hands. He doesn’t say mama or dads yet.
To be fair to him I haven’t got him to try and wave or clap hands as I didn’t realise it was a developmental thing the HV would check at his 9-12 month review.
I’ve been so distracted with him today and I’ve been desperately trying to get him to babble and wave.
He loves peek a boo and giggles and smiles when I sing to him - like old macdonald and Hokey Cokey.
he doesn’t recognise his name yet but if you point to something he will look.
no health visitor has been in touch since he was 8 weeks and I feel like I’m meant to be trying all these things with him I don’t do like waving and clapping and telling him to shake a rattle or pass something back to me.
we’re doing baby led weaning and he’s great with that - he’s got a little pincer grip now.
He’s good at object permanence - I hide things with Muslins and he understands they’re under there.
I’m a first time mum and this is the first time I’ve really felt like a failure and I just don’t know what to do.
i guess I’m looking for reassurance from other mums whose babies have maybe babbled and clapped and waved later than 9 months? He’s 9 months today.
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