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I’ve always suspected I have ADHD, but I’ve never bothered pursuing it because I can’t even get a doctors appointment for my bad hips!
I’ve always struggled, I just don’t fit in at all and you can tell people think I’m strange. People look at me sometimes like I’ve got 3 heads and no one ever wants to be friends with me!
I can’t focus, unless it’s on something I’m really interested in. I’m fascinated with medical conditions, maps & old photos and I spend ages looking at/researching these things! I’ve always had a quick temper and I get frustrated quickly because I can’t complete simple tasks! I can’t sit and watch films, although I can focus on certain tv shows & documentaries.
I jump from one thing to another, one minute I’m doing a jigsaw, next I want to start a new Lego set and then I want to start baking. I give myself whiplash. Making decisions is almost impossible and I get frustrated when other people won’t decide for me as I don’t know what I want.
Yet if I do want something, i become fixated. I wanted to book a holiday and I spent hours researching it and I became angry when I couldn’t find what I wanted. If I want something, I want it NOW right now!
I’m actually quite shy, but with people I’m comfortable with I can get speaking at such speeds and I’ll change the conversation throughout and give people whiplash. Yet if someone else is talking and I don’t find it interesting (which is usually all the time) then I just zone out. I won’t even hear you say my name! I have fairly limited social skills. Although I’m very in tune to others feelings and I’m tactful and sensitive towards others.
I honestly feel like a failure. I feel like I’m in a dead end job and I can’t do anything better because I haven’t got the confidence. I just don’t know what to do with myself half the time. I feel sorry for my husband as he does a lot of the household chores and he manages all the bills because I just forget…
I don’t know why I’m even writing all this. I think I just wanted to find people that feel the same.
I’ve always struggled, I just don’t fit in at all and you can tell people think I’m strange. People look at me sometimes like I’ve got 3 heads and no one ever wants to be friends with me!
I can’t focus, unless it’s on something I’m really interested in. I’m fascinated with medical conditions, maps & old photos and I spend ages looking at/researching these things! I’ve always had a quick temper and I get frustrated quickly because I can’t complete simple tasks! I can’t sit and watch films, although I can focus on certain tv shows & documentaries.
I jump from one thing to another, one minute I’m doing a jigsaw, next I want to start a new Lego set and then I want to start baking. I give myself whiplash. Making decisions is almost impossible and I get frustrated when other people won’t decide for me as I don’t know what I want.
Yet if I do want something, i become fixated. I wanted to book a holiday and I spent hours researching it and I became angry when I couldn’t find what I wanted. If I want something, I want it NOW right now!
I’m actually quite shy, but with people I’m comfortable with I can get speaking at such speeds and I’ll change the conversation throughout and give people whiplash. Yet if someone else is talking and I don’t find it interesting (which is usually all the time) then I just zone out. I won’t even hear you say my name! I have fairly limited social skills. Although I’m very in tune to others feelings and I’m tactful and sensitive towards others.
I honestly feel like a failure. I feel like I’m in a dead end job and I can’t do anything better because I haven’t got the confidence. I just don’t know what to do with myself half the time. I feel sorry for my husband as he does a lot of the household chores and he manages all the bills because I just forget…
I don’t know why I’m even writing all this. I think I just wanted to find people that feel the same.
WowI’ve always suspected I have ADHD, but I’ve never bothered pursuing it because I can’t even get a doctors appointment for my bad hips!
I’ve always struggled, I just don’t fit in at all and you can tell people think I’m strange. People look at me sometimes like I’ve got 3 heads and no one ever wants to be friends with me!
I can’t focus, unless it’s on something I’m really interested in. I’m fascinated with medical conditions, maps & old photos and I spend ages looking at/researching these things! I’ve always had a quick temper and I get frustrated quickly because I can’t complete simple tasks! I can’t sit and watch films, although I can focus on certain tv shows & documentaries.
I jump from one thing to another, one minute I’m doing a jigsaw, next I want to start a new Lego set and then I want to start baking. I give myself whiplash. Making decisions is almost impossible and I get frustrated when other people won’t decide for me as I don’t know what I want.
Yet if I do want something, i become fixated. I wanted to book a holiday and I spent hours researching it and I became angry when I couldn’t find what I wanted. If I want something, I want it NOW right now!
I’m actually quite shy, but with people I’m comfortable with I can get speaking at such speeds and I’ll change the conversation throughout and give people whiplash. Yet if someone else is talking and I don’t find it interesting (which is usually all the time) then I just zone out. I won’t even hear you say my name! I have fairly limited social skills. Although I’m very in tune to others feelings and I’m tactful and sensitive towards others.
I honestly feel like a failure. I feel like I’m in a dead end job and I can’t do anything better because I haven’t got the confidence. I just don’t know what to do with myself half the time. I feel sorry for my husband as he does a lot of the household chores and he manages all the bills because I just forget…
I don’t know why I’m even writing all this. I think I just wanted to find people that feel the same.
It’s as if my head wrote this out
This is me completely
I reasonate with so much and I appreciate you writing this
I to get fixated on something and research it. I struggle to maintain friendships and i critically analyse every situation (most times the evaluation is people think I’m weird). I constantly and I mean constantly butt in to people but then sometimes I completely soon put
My job is somewhat analytical and creative so maybe talks to what I do
Deadlines are crucifying
I've only been diagnosed with ADHD but also strongly suspect ASD too. I was diagnosed in 2021 at the age of 30 and honestly it's a real roller-coaster. I found that I went through so many different stages like relief, sadness, anger, feeling lost about who I actually was etc.
If you've got to where you are without the support and knowledge of your diagnosis, that speaks volumes about you as a person - and you're still that same person. What you have now is that little extra awareness to identify what works for you and what doesn't.
I'm really tit at doing work unless I am under pressure and have a deadline, and also used to struggle some days because thinking was like wading through treacle. Now I can remind myself that it's not because I'm lazy or useless, so I've found I'm a lot gentler on myself than I was pre-diagnosis.
I'm a h&s professional and the variety has always been great for me. It's a very people centred role but I've had to build up a work persona over the years to give me he confidence to deal with people. Since working from home most of the time, now any time I actually go into work it genuinely exhausts me for days where I'm no longer used to socialising face to face
Sorry if this is all a bit rambly and irrelevant. Been up since 4am with my lovely possibly covid fever
If you've got to where you are without the support and knowledge of your diagnosis, that speaks volumes about you as a person - and you're still that same person. What you have now is that little extra awareness to identify what works for you and what doesn't.
I'm really tit at doing work unless I am under pressure and have a deadline, and also used to struggle some days because thinking was like wading through treacle. Now I can remind myself that it's not because I'm lazy or useless, so I've found I'm a lot gentler on myself than I was pre-diagnosis.
I'm a h&s professional and the variety has always been great for me. It's a very people centred role but I've had to build up a work persona over the years to give me he confidence to deal with people. Since working from home most of the time, now any time I actually go into work it genuinely exhausts me for days where I'm no longer used to socialising face to face
Sorry if this is all a bit rambly and irrelevant. Been up since 4am with my lovely possibly covid fever
if you don’t mind me asking how did you get your diagnose did you go private?I've only been diagnosed with ADHD but also strongly suspect ASD too. I was diagnosed in 2021 at the age of 30 and honestly it's a real roller-coaster. I found that I went through so many different stages like relief, sadness, anger, feeling lost about who I actually was etc.
If you've got to where you are without the support and knowledge of your diagnosis, that speaks volumes about you as a person - and you're still that same person. What you have now is that little extra awareness to identify what works for you and what doesn't.
I'm really tit at doing work unless I am under pressure and have a deadline, and also used to struggle some days because thinking was like wading through treacle. Now I can remind myself that it's not because I'm lazy or useless, so I've found I'm a lot gentler on myself than I was pre-diagnosis.
I'm a h&s professional and the variety has always been great for me. It's a very people centred role but I've had to build up a work persona over the years to give me he confidence to deal with people. Since working from home most of the time, now any time I actually go into work it genuinely exhausts me for days where I'm no longer used to socialising face to face
Sorry if this is all a bit rambly and irrelevant. Been up since 4am with my lovely possibly covid fever
I think I had a very fortunate experience so sadly this probably isn't representive of what most people go through - I basically did the adhd NHS assessment form and submitted it to my gp through their online e-consult thing, and I cited right to choose and asked to be referred to Psychology UK. I didnt realise at the time Kent uses them anyway as their main route for adult referrals, but the gp rang me and basically went meh OK, she wasn't interested in talking about it at all
I had to wait about 3 months until I had an online appt with them. They have been really good but I know others have had mixed experiences with them.ah Im in Scotland so would probably be different Im trying to get diagnosed but constantly fobbed off with being told I have anxietyI think I had a very fortunate experience so sadly this probably isn't representive of what most people go through - I basically did the adhd NHS assessment form and submitted it to my gp through their online e-consult thing, and I cited right to choose and asked to be referred to Psychology UK. I didnt realise at the time Kent uses them anyway as their main route for adult referrals, but the gp rang me and basically went meh OK, she wasn't interested in talking about it at all
Anxiety or depression is a common comorbidity with adhd - can you speak to a different gp at your surgery? You could also try the NHS form if you haven't given it a go already. I had cbt several times for anxiety and was prescribed beta blockers (despite having low blood pressure already).
I think because there has been this big explosion in adults (especially women) realising they might have adhd, GPs have been told to gatekeep a bit, which is so unfair. I wish you the best in getting them to listen to you
100% Iv only realised the last couple of years that I think that’s what I have makes sense on how much I struggled through school and always been labeled bad or easily distracted and how much it’s affecting my adult life with time keeping or focusing on tasks with either personal life or work its really frustrating cos I can’t help it don’t know why they find these things difficult to diagnose girls
Definite not alone I could have written this almost word for word.I’ve always suspected I have ADHD, but I’ve never bothered pursuing it because I can’t even get a doctors appointment for my bad hips!
I’ve always struggled, I just don’t fit in at all and you can tell people think I’m strange. People look at me sometimes like I’ve got 3 heads and no one ever wants to be friends with me!
I can’t focus, unless it’s on something I’m really interested in. I’m fascinated with medical conditions, maps & old photos and I spend ages looking at/researching these things! I’ve always had a quick temper and I get frustrated quickly because I can’t complete simple tasks! I can’t sit and watch films, although I can focus on certain tv shows & documentaries.
I jump from one thing to another, one minute I’m doing a jigsaw, next I want to start a new Lego set and then I want to start baking. I give myself whiplash. Making decisions is almost impossible and I get frustrated when other people won’t decide for me as I don’t know what I want.
Yet if I do want something, i become fixated. I wanted to book a holiday and I spent hours researching it and I became angry when I couldn’t find what I wanted. If I want something, I want it NOW right now!
I’m actually quite shy, but with people I’m comfortable with I can get speaking at such speeds and I’ll change the conversation throughout and give people whiplash. Yet if someone else is talking and I don’t find it interesting (which is usually all the time) then I just zone out. I won’t even hear you say my name! I have fairly limited social skills. Although I’m very in tune to others feelings and I’m tactful and sensitive towards others.
I honestly feel like a failure. I feel like I’m in a dead end job and I can’t do anything better because I haven’t got the confidence. I just don’t know what to do with myself half the time. I feel sorry for my husband as he does a lot of the household chores and he manages all the bills because I just forget…
I don’t know why I’m even writing all this. I think I just wanted to find people that feel the same.
I've suspected that I am autistic but am not keen on going down the diagnostic route for fear of rejection by my GP and worrying about the label. I've struggled all my life with school, college, uni, all jobs, all friendships were difficult and ended up just fizzling out. Romantic relationships I was taken advantage of, and when I look back I was so naive. My parents didn't really care about me so I spent a lot of time on my own. Had my first job at 14, in 48 now, married with two boys aged 6 and 12. Through being a mum I realised all of this and self diagnosed myself. Sorry for the long post