Annoying things your work colleagues do all the time? #3

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@jawidjanqndn everything you've said here about your workplace is such a red flag! I don't know how you're managing to cope with them, the manager and the pervy old man sound absolutely awful and I can't believe people are contacting you to say they've been talking about you. Definitely add copies of those messages to your diary for when you leave if you still have them. How is the job hunt going?
 
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Just exist 🤣 everyone in my job is so nasty and vile, everyone acts as if they are above you and couldn’t ever possibly talk to you with a bit of respect. I am in a small team with literally just my witch of a boss, she’s left me out of any Christmas celebrations not to mention she’s horrid to me on a daily basis 🥲

said I had no life and there’s no possible way I have any sort of responsibility because I go to the gym, called me a giraffe and said I stand out like i sore thumb next to her last week 👍🏻 looks me up and down when I get in every morning and never speaks a word

there is also an old man at work who constantly harasses me and tells me if he was 20 years younger I’d be in trouble. Every day he comes up behind me and says something weird, always comparing me to his 12 year old daughter as she is also blonde with blue eyes and apparently has ‘gorgeous long legs like me’. Makes me ill
I think that woman is jealous of you.
 
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@jawidjanqndn everything you've said here about your workplace is such a red flag! I don't know how you're managing to cope with them, the manager and the pervy old man sound absolutely awful and I can't believe people are contacting you to say they've been talking about you. Definitely add copies of those messages to your diary for when you leave if you still have them. How is the job hunt going?
Keep copies of everything, including the fb messages, etc.
Go to HR.
If they won’t do anything, go to ACAS
 
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He sounds like a Grade A misogynist. Bet he doesn't do this to other men. Count down the days, TheGlossy!
He is. Big time.

We conducted an interview together for a new hire and as soon as he saw the new hire’s face, he started acting like I didn’t exist. He walked all over me during the call, didn’t let me respond to the candidate when they answered a question I asked and talked over me the entire call.

I then gathered he found the person attractive and wanted to showcase himself while undermining me in the process.

He kept calling a new joiner in our area the B word because she didn’t introduce herself to him. She’s far more senior than he is and works in a different group. She’s got no obligation to speak to him.

A HR woman sent me an email saying thank you for something I did for the interviews we conducted and asked him to confirm something in the same email as he was in cc. He replied to her saying she was “rude” because she didn’t say “Hi” and “Please”. She just said “(Name), can you confirm blah blah…”. I don’t see how this classified as rude.

He called another woman a “crazy cat lady” because her cat jumped into her lap during a call.

He’s seriously insane. He has a problem with everyone, especially women. He throws the word B right left and center.

I hope he gets demoted, but in any case, he won’t be my issue anymore.

Onwards and upwards to better things.
Glad to hear your new manager is taking no nonsense as regards release dates.
Your current manager will get in someone else, probably promise them the sun, moon and stars and then overload them with work like they did to you.

As an aside, I genuinely believe that from every crap situation I encountered in work, I learned something, unpleasant as the situation or the individual was, at the time.
Not easy lessons, but in the long run, valuable ones.
Indeed. I definitely learned to stand up for myself and speak. I was such a reserved non-confrontational person before this episode but I’ve learned to that’s why I got treated like a doormat. Lesson learned for sure!
 
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There’s a £600 bonus happening at work this month. As agency, I won’t be receiving it - despite being temp to perm and will be going permanent next month. I’m not classed as ‘staff’, even though I was involved in the email chain. It’s tit, but whatever, I’ll get over it.

I start work at 9am. I usually turn up for 8.55am to make sure I’m ready by 9am. One of my coworkers turned round today and said ‘I feel like you always make it here just in time. You should be here 15 mins early like me, to prove you’re a good staff member’

To which I replied ‘well I’m not classed as an employee when it comes to getting a bonus, so why would I care about being seen as a good one? I start at 9am, I’ll arrive just before 9am.’

He’s not even a manager and has only been there for three weeks more than I have 🙄
 
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There’s a £600 bonus happening at work this month. As agency, I won’t be receiving it - despite being temp to perm and will be going permanent next month. I’m not classed as ‘staff’, even though I was involved in the email chain. It’s tit, but whatever, I’ll get over it.

I start work at 9am. I usually turn up for 8.55am to make sure I’m ready by 9am. One of my coworkers turned round today and said ‘I feel like you always make it here just in time. You should be here 15 mins early like me, to prove you’re a good staff member’

To which I replied ‘well I’m not classed as an employee when it comes to getting a bonus, so why would I care about being seen as a good one? I start at 9am, I’ll arrive just before 9am.’

He’s not even a manager and has only been there for three weeks more than I have 🙄
'And I feel that you should mind your own business you little prick'... the nerve of him!
 
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I feel like where people wfh for a while and now back in the office more there’s certain people who totally thrive on the power trips back stabbing bitching just all the horrible stuff that their sad little lives have been missing when wfh . My entire team is ruined by one vile middle aged woman who’s got to have a target to be nasty to every week , she uses teams to manipulate and witch on she’s just so vile and yet no one will ever call her out for it . Most of her targets are newer team members who are all lovely looking and I’ve told them there’s definitely an element of jealousy with her and also because they’re new and more positive about the job than her she can’t stand that .
 
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Yeah completely agree with you, I also hate doing the whole women are witches thing but it’s so true in this case. She’s never managed before and is very immature and jealous in my opinion. I hate to sound rude but we are visibly very different, I don’t know if she is threatened or what but I have always put the most into my work and do everything I can to help her, I am a nice person 🤷🏼‍♀️ I never get a thank you or even an acknowledgment. The gym comment honestly made me so angry I had to leave the office to cool down because I was gonna lose it 😂 I go 4/5x a week which I’m sure is probably extreme to some people but i started for my own personal reasons and to help me get over tit, and it’s absolutely done that for me. It’s something I’m passionate about and keeps me sane so for her to take the piss on a regular basis and say I have no life ect really upset me. I feel like I can’t say anything because everyone seems to love her, they go off to the canteen ect and I’m usually eating at my desk because I don’t want to socialise with people like that. I’ve tried it and got ignored and stared at the whole hour 🤣

I don’t know what it is about me which she hates so much, I feel like because I’m blonde wear makeup ect maybe I look typically ‘dumb’ she’s probably had this opinion formed of me before she even got chance to get to know me, I’m not an idiot and am very capable of doing my job. The Christmas stuff is getting on my nerves now aswell as they are all talking about how much fun it will be and how last years was so wild… bore off 😴 how crazy Chloe got on the dance floor I really don’t give a flying duck

the old man is disgusting. He recently added me on Facebook and I have ignored it, it has now been followed by messages asking if I’ve watched certain tv shows ect? So I have shut my settings down on Facebook, I did also see that his daughter was brunette and not blonde which was weird. He asked me to go for breakfast with him this morning as he needs a ‘partner’, I declined and pretended I was on a call 🫣 this isn’t the only occasion things like this has happened, on business conferences my name has been brought up and I have received Facebook messages telling me these male colleagues were on about me (men in their 30’s) it is just bizarre. There is no way this is a normal working environment and has simply drained all the energy out of me tbh, i am so desperate to leave.
Please seek legal advice. Nobody should have to put up with any of that!

I feel like where people wfh for a while and now back in the office more there’s certain people who totally thrive on the power trips back stabbing bitching just all the horrible stuff that their sad little lives have been missing when wfh . My entire team is ruined by one vile middle aged woman who’s got to have a target to be nasty to every week , she uses teams to manipulate and witch on she’s just so vile and yet no one will ever call her out for it . Most of her targets are newer team members who are all lovely looking and I’ve told them there’s definitely an element of jealousy with her and also because they’re new and more positive about the job than her she can’t stand that .
I agree, 100%! I love all of the people I work with, with the exception of one, who is exactly as you've described. She's just a miserable person who doesn't even try to fit in (we've tried so hard in that regard). We're all heading back to the office again next week, after working remotely for this past week (our MD was worried about a new wave of Covid coming and wanted to keep everyone safe), and I'm dreading what surprises she has in store.
 
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I feel like where people wfh for a while and now back in the office more there’s certain people who totally thrive on the power trips back stabbing bitching just all the horrible stuff that their sad little lives have been missing when wfh . My entire team is ruined by one vile middle aged woman who’s got to have a target to be nasty to every week , she uses teams to manipulate and witch on she’s just so vile and yet no one will ever call her out for it . Most of her targets are newer team members who are all lovely looking and I’ve told them there’s definitely an element of jealousy with her and also because they’re new and more positive about the job than her she can’t stand that .
I dont have to work in the office every day so i plan my week around when our misery is going to be in to avoid her!!!

in another rant. Work nights out. Dreading the party season not only is there always drama, but ppl who normally take drugs start including people who dont. They are all very obvious about it and it makes me feel horribly uncomfortable. I hate it
 
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bleeping nosey cow that I'm paired with. If someone comes in to tell me something, as soon as they've left she's straight over to find out what they've said or sometimes she'll even just interrupt our conversation with 'what's this about? Or 'what's this you're talking about'. Sometimes someone might be just asking if I've got enough stock or whatever and she'll say 'what did she want you for? And I'll say 'oh it was just about the stock'. And she'll say 'why what about it'? and then I'll have to explain. Grrr it grinds my gears. If someone comes in to talk to her I leave them to it but then i'm not paranoid..... xx
 
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bleeping nosey cow that I'm paired with. If someone comes in to tell me something, as soon as they've left she's straight over to find out what they've said or sometimes she'll even just interrupt our conversation with 'what's this about? Or 'what's this you're talking about'. Sometimes someone might be just asking if I've got enough stock or whatever and she'll say 'what did she want you for? And I'll say 'oh it was just about the stock'. And she'll say 'why what about it'? and then I'll have to explain. Grrr it grinds my gears. If someone comes in to talk to her I leave them to it but then i'm not paranoid..... xx
I cant stand nosey people, in general. I would be pausing and looking at her for a moment before giving a vague answer. Or burying my head in something and giving uh-huh responses until she was sick of me 😁
 
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I cant stand nosey people, in general. I would be pausing and looking at her for a moment before giving a vague answer. Or burying my head in something and giving uh-huh responses until she was sick of me 😁
Ha ha ha! That is so true ' uh-huh' and 'oh okay' are my favourites when she starts slagging people off as I just don't get involved in that. She hates it and goes around saying 'I think rodneytrotter is being a bit off with me" (which I dont care about). I love the idea of pausing and looking at her for a moment! She has no self awareness at all.
 
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The annoying oaf in my large, open-plan, multi-team office also has to have his nose in literally anything and everything going on, seemingly especially if it's none of his business.
Not even confined to just this office, he's always nosing around what other teams are doing in other parts of the organisation entirely. In other buildings even!

I find myself waiting for ages for him to be out of the room before asking a manager/ colleague a question or whatever because he will absolutely have something to say about literally anything. He's got such a tiny remit, he's really got very little of worth to contribute to anything not directly involving him anyway, but he's always got to have something to say about anything.
It's so disruptive and unhelpful and unwelcome, and everyone complains about it to his manager and she's too fuckin weak to just have a quick word in one of their frequent one-on-one meetings.

I'm going to explode at the nosey bleep one day. I just want to say "I'm sorry, I wasn't talking to you" which feels a bit too confrontational for the workplace anyway, but I know it'll come out as "No one bleeping asked for your input and you weren't involved in this conversation you idiot!! Shut up!!!" because of biting my tongue for so long.
 
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Ha ha ha! That is so true ' uh-huh' and 'oh okay' are my favourites when she starts slagging people off as I just don't get involved in that. She hates it and goes around saying 'I think rodneytrotter is being a bit off with me" (which I dont care about). I love the idea of pausing and looking at her for a moment! She has no self awareness at all.
That actually does work 😁 just a slightly blank look for a moment too long that says 'WTF' without saying a word 😁.
I have done it, not just in work situations but any time anyone asks me a really nosey question.
They usually get the message that they have gone too far.
 
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I’ve got a nosey coworker as well and he does my bleeping head in.
We started on the same day, yet undermines me because I’m younger and a female.

Our manager will be training us on something and he’ll feel the need to then explain it again to me in ‘simpler terms’.

Or my manager will set us a task each - but my coworker will always want to be doing what I’m doing - even if it’s the task he complained about the day previous. He comes over and interrupts me to ask me questions about what I’m doing. He even picked up the stack of paperwork I had the other day and started flicking through it 😠 his excuse was ‘well I need to know how this look and get used to it’ - after doing the same task for the previous two days.

You can’t have a conversation without him butting in. I was talking to the lady who sits next to me yesterday about a place we’ve been to and he cut her off mid sentence to say ‘well I’ve never been to that place myself’. He cannot stand not being involved.
 
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I’ve got a nosey coworker as well and he does my bleeping head in.
We started on the same day, yet undermines me because I’m younger and a female.

Our manager will be training us on something and he’ll feel the need to then explain it again to me in ‘simpler terms’.

Or my manager will set us a task each - but my coworker will always want to be doing what I’m doing - even if it’s the task he complained about the day previous. He comes over and interrupts me to ask me questions about what I’m doing. He even picked up the stack of paperwork I had the other day and started flicking through it 😠 his excuse was ‘well I need to know how this look and get used to it’ - after doing the same task for the previous two days.

You can’t have a conversation without him butting in. I was talking to the lady who sits next to me yesterday about a place we’ve been to and he cut her off mid sentence to say ‘well I’ve never been to that place myself’. He cannot stand not being involved.
Frighteningly similar to my colleague. The butting in to fairly obviously somewhat private, non-work chat is the absolute worst imo, and we all find ourselves just not having those pleasant friendly personal asides with colleagues because you know he'll have something to say about it.
So you wait till he's out of the room, or you are but 70% of the time the moment passes and you just let it go, and everything is just that little bit less congenial because of it.

The mansplaining is something that's worth raising with managers or even supportive colleagues though. Or bringing it up yourself next time it's happening, if you feel able. It's really not on.
 
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The coworker that made the comment about being early also does my nut in to no extent.

He’s a ‘gym lad’ who fancies himself. Like if he could marry himself, he would. He makes comments on peoples lunches. If you eat fruit, he says ‘love to see it, health is wealth’. If you eat crisps or chocolate, he says ‘oh should you be eating that, not very healthy’ - despite me never seeing him eat a fruit or vegetable.

His mum makes his lunch for him, so he doesn’t know the stresses of trying to keep on top of all your housework, working, having a life outside of work, and then panicking when you realise you’ve not made lunch so you have to pop to greggs.

I’ve resulted to eating at a different time to them now because I just cannot hack it. I’m not gonna be made to feel like tit for eating a Twix whilst he’s there shovelling down carbs and protein bars.
 
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Just exist 🤣 everyone in my job is so nasty and vile, everyone acts as if they are above you and couldn’t ever possibly talk to you with a bit of respect. I am in a small team with literally just my witch of a boss, she’s left me out of any Christmas celebrations not to mention she’s horrid to me on a daily basis 🥲

said I had no life and there’s no possible way I have any sort of responsibility because I go to the gym, called me a giraffe and said I stand out like i sore thumb next to her last week 👍🏻 looks me up and down when I get in every morning and never speaks a word

there is also an old man at work who constantly harasses me and tells me if he was 20 years younger I’d be in trouble. Every day he comes up behind me and says something weird, always comparing me to his 12 year old daughter as she is also blonde with blue eyes and apparently has ‘gorgeous long legs like me’. Makes me ill
That man should be reported, that is not acceptable behavior, if you don't do anything you are encouraging him.
 
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