Am I sad for staying in tonight ?

[KateESJ]

Not at all.
I made party food with my three year old, we’re doing our new year countdown together at 8pm then the kids are off to bed. I’ll probably watch a sappy movie on my own and eat junk food.
I might order in some food just to treat myself.
I’ve never been sentimental about New Years. It’s just another day for me really.

I’m psyching myself up for the 2nd. That’s my sons birthday but he’s not with us anymore, so New Years hasn’t even been on my mind at all.

 

[OhhBacon]

For various reasons I’m glad to say bye to 2019. I’m staying in with wine, dog, a good book and loads of Netflix.
Am old enough to have confidence in my decision and I don’t have FoMo.

I think it is a very over rated evening, the pressure is in to have a good time, I’d rather sit in a beer garden in the summer with friends and call that New Years Eve!

 

[lipsticktaser]

Maybe staying in is what you need. Step into 2020
With a fresh head and a heart that’s beginning to mend. I always stay in. Haven’t been invited out anyway.

I hope 2020 is kinder to you and if you never need anyone to talk to, my inbox is open.

 

[Loulou de la Falaise]

New year is overhyped. It’s just another day no one has any control or influence over, but it is yet another opportunity for people to make money out of us. BUY ALL OUR DRINK AND PARTY FOOD! SEE EXPENSIVE FIREWORKS! NOW BUY THIS MAGIC DIET PILL YOU FAT BSTARD NEW YEAR NEW YOU! ad nauseum.

I say, do what *you* want. Be Bridget Jones and have a mope if you want. Go out and see your family if you want.

Reflect on everything, regret nothing.

 

[Meringue22]

I’m in. Pjs on. Bond on and drinking Prosecco when I was in my twenties I felt like such a sad twat not going out....so much pressure!! Could not give a flying fuck now

 

[CosmicCreepers]

Not sad at all. I'm staying in too, with my parents. I'm at home from uni at the moment and also got invited on a night out. But double fare for a taxi home and £15 entry to the nightclub? No thanks. I'd rather stay in and eat Doritos and drink lots of wine lol. Sorry to hear you've had such a rough year x

 

[Leita]

Question: what would you tell you best friend to do if she was in the same situation ? That’s your answer.

The only sad thing would be if you did something you didn’t want to. I stay true to myself, staying in. I can’t cope with the fake “hugs and kisses” from people other times of the year don’t bother at all.

But having said that don’t sit in and dwell on your ex, he’s an ex for a reason. You’ve seen the other side to him (cold communication) you’ve had a lucky escape. He has moved on and ready to trap his next victim in his web. He’s in 2019 for a reason.... 2020 will bring new things. Focus on you, and what’s right for you this coming year. You deserve it after a rotten year.

 

[PoleStar]

Sorry you've had such a bad year, I've been there and I know the feeling of being glad to see the back of a particular year. Do whatever is right for you and stuff everything else, I gave up caring about "social norms" relating to things like Christmas and New Year many moons ago and it's really liberating. You might be surprised how many people go to parties and so and spend the entire time wishing they were anywhere else! As a doctor you give so many of your hours to other people (I work in the NHS and I know how bloody hard you doctors work), time to give some to yourself! Enjoy whatever you end up doing - personally I'll be chilling at home with my husband and cat and watching TV. If anyone else had a problem with that - tough!

 

[PineappleQueen19]

Sorry to hear you’ve been through all that.

Staying in isn’t sad at all. The saddest thing is not being true to yourself and what you know you need.

Having said that, no one would blame you if you surreptitiously sussed out which of your party options had the most single guys, you rock up at 11.30, snog one or a few, back home in your pyjamas by 1am

It’s your ex’s loss btw. Here’s to your 2020

 

[HumanPerson]

Im 35 and the only time I actually went out for NYE was 2003 when I was 19 (unless you include my aunts house party at 15 where me and her neighbours kid got so drunk that I fell of a chair and flashed my underwear at everyone, and then an ambulance ended up being called for him and he had to have his stomach pumped). I’ve stayed in every single year. We sometimes invite people over, but no one ever joins us.

Sorry to hear about your year. Just because you’re a psychiatrist doesn’t mean you’re invincible xx

 

[IrishGryffindor]

Happy New year's lads !

 

[ponyta]

So sorry to hear about your year. I appreciate times are hard and in this situation you should do what you want to do. I'm staying in tonight..food, drinks and games with my autistic sibling. Not one fuck given if it's sad or not, try not to be hung up on being 'sad'.

 

[Housework Fairy]

Not at all.

We are all conditioned into believing that we should be party animals who want to go out drinking and partying whenever we get the chance but the truth is we're all different and some of us prefer our own company and the TV.

I'm off out for tea with the hubby and then coming home to watch the soaps.

 

[IrishGryffindor]

I didn’t know how I’d get over the person I DID marry! I look back at it and I’m grateful that he left me because I’m much happier now - we both are actually. I still see him and his new wife/kids at functions and we all get on fine - I actually really like his new wife. And I like being able to smile at her and think “rather you than me, love” when he’s being a bit of a tool .

At the time I was devastated and it didn’t make any sense to me but now I can see that it happened for a reason and I’m pleased it did. I learnt a lot about myself and how I deserved to be treated after that.

Don't know he's 28 and I'm 30 but had no plans to marry etc and I was like.. eh I want to get married lol

I have become such a more chill person since we brokeup and I never learned how to drive or cook cause medicine took over my life and I'm doing it all now

 

[IrishGryffindor]

This is a long one sorry lads no need to read / reply I guess its somewhere for me to rant lol.

I worked all through Christmas!

I'm invited to 7 parties / outings tonight. Everyone is going mad I'm staying in ! Not cause I'm miss popular ( I'm a doctor, rugby player and an artist on the side so plenty of mates lol) but cause they think it's depressing !!??

My ex fella brokeup with me at the end of August. Sounds desperate but I'm still heart broken.

I blocked him on everything bar my phone and he sent me a text 3 months later looking for something of his that I forgot I had ! It was the coldest text I've ever got. I blocked him there and then and posted it the next day.

He also sent me back 2 scrapbooks and 3 paintings I made him !!!! Bastard I know! I miss him so so much but honestly I'm 30 and obviously better off since he clearly isn't who I thought he was.

I was in hospital this year for almost 4 months due to depression and had a complete breakdown in work and he became more like a nurse to me and it broke the spark really !

I can't talk about my break up irl. I'm a psychiatrist and when you're a doctor you're kind of presumed to be a feicin robot ! Lol. Even asking my twin brother, sister's are no use. The only one who's good at this is my gay brother Jack who is away with his unfortunately and don't want to bother him !!

God new years is worse than Christmas cause all I'm thinking is who is my ex gonna be snogging!!!! How sad is that lol.

My parents are having a party with all my aunts and uncles so am I sad to go to that !? Ahh. Gonna get some pink gin and get drunk I think lol.

Happy New year's everyone anyway here's to 2020!

 

[TheDuchess]

I’m from Scotland and Hogmanay just isn’t what it was when I was out clubbing 10 years ago

Happy to say I am sitting in tonight with a takeaway and a box of maltesers. BLISS.

Look at it as a free night to do whatever you want, you have plenty of options Grab some nice party food or a takeaway and watch a really good feel good movie or stand up comedy.

It’s not sad to sit in and do whatever you want to or to go to your parents. Tbh most New Years party are a big let down as they never live up to their expectations I think come the 1st a lot of partygoers would have rather have stayed in than having to deal with hangovers and regret

Happy New Year when it comes and I hope you enjoy it whichever way you choose to see in the new year.

Hold your head up high and don’t pay any attention to your ex. He isn’t worth your tears or your time.

I really hope 2020 is a great year for you!

 

[Web30]

Nope. Im planning on staying in and playing the sims.
No one has to go out and party new years eve, its just another night.

Id rather do whatever i wanted then go out and not really be into it.

 

[Influenced]

Just dropped my husband off at the airport for 4 weeks of work so just me and my 2 small girls here. No NY parties or invites. The joy of small children always hated NYE anyway. So much expectation and all that counting down, never been good with numbers nothing sad about staying in, it's just another day. The plus side is you have a clear head for tomorrow and can plan a nice walk or visit people then. Fuck you ex. Easy for me to say but look at it as a clean slate. Leave him behind and start anew tomorrow. Happy New Year to you all.

 

[BlahBlahSheep]

I just don't know how to get over the person you thought was the one you where gonna marry !

I didn’t know how I’d get over the person I DID marry! I look back at it and I’m grateful that he left me because I’m much happier now - we both are actually. I still see him and his new wife/kids at functions and we all get on fine - I actually really like his new wife. And I like being able to smile at her and think “rather you than me, love” when he’s being a bit of a tool .

At the time I was devastated and it didn’t make any sense to me but now I can see that it happened for a reason and I’m pleased it did. I learnt a lot about myself and how I deserved to be treated after that.

 

[BettyCrocker]

same only Im watching Micky flanagan.

“I’m going to make.... a sausage sandwich!!!!!!!!!”