Humblebeige
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Hi Simone,
I've followed you since it was just Facebook and you were just starting your weightloss journey. I had so much admiration for you. You were quite big still and made a point of showing how much joy you got out of still getting dressed up and how everyone deserves to feel special and gorgeous. You worked so hard to change your life style. I remember your personal training sessions and talking about meeting up with friends to go walking instead of drinking/eating. Then you went to America and had your first surgery, I was so impressed how you went alone and how open and honest you were with it all. I remember watching your YouTube videos and being heartbroken for you when you were in so much pain, and had that horrible nurse. Then so excited for you when you went on the Tyra Banks show. Then you went back and had your next round of surgery and again you were so honest and open about it all and the recovery, all on your own. It was super impressive.
Then it all started to change, it got to a point where I had to unfollow you for a while because you became one giant walking advertisement. It was too much. I came back a few months later and stayed while you were pregnant and now with Asher. I saw the articles about the Women's Refuge and the Colgate "white night" and the questionable practices about declaring ads. All of that put a bad taste in my mouth but nothing compared to how you portray motherhood. This is where I think you are actually dangerous and damaging.
I'm a new mother to an 8 month old. I love him to bits. My life isn't that much different to yours when you look at the basics, I own my home, my husband runs is own successful business, I grew up comfortably with money. But motherhood has kicked my ass, I feel like it does for everyone. Your portray this image of effortlessly gliding through motherhood - your postpartum was sunny and bright with only tears because you were so overjoyed. Did you have moments where you were so tired you didn't know how you could possibly keep functioning? Where you felt so frustrated because you were stuck feeding for hours? Where the house work just got away from you because you were nap trapped with a tiny baby and just wanted to stare at their little face?
Then you sleep trained. No judgement, it's not for me but every family is different. Did you let him cry it out? Was it hard listening to him cry for you and not answering those calls for his mum? Because it seems like you just put him in his crib and then your baby slept for 12 hours with no issues. Another perfect story.
My 8 month old is like Asher - hitting milestones early. I spend most of my day running around trying to stop him from severely injuring himself as he climbs, crawls and destroys everything in his path. It's awesome, hilarious and exhausting. On days my husband works from home, I cannot just pop him in with his Dad because he's climbing and wants to move, he won't be contained in a room with a parent that's on a computer, well he might but those computer cords are going to be chewed to shit. You clearly have help with him whether it's daycare or a nanny or whatever, why do you portray this image that you're this powerhouse stay at home mum who can do it all? You're not doing it all - and that's OKAY. What is not ok is showing this fake as shit life to vulnerable women who idolise you.
The image of motherhood you present through your page is a complete load of bullshit. It's harmful, damaging and is the definition of toxic positivity. Motherhood is hard, it is demanding and it takes everything you've got. It's normal to have days where you're so exhausted you can't think straight, to have days where your baby drives you up the wall. Where your baby is teething and whinging all day and won't be put down. Days where showering, feeding yourself and baby and making it till Dad gets home feels like the biggest achievement. And yes there are days where everything goes to plan and it's joyful and fulfilling.
I worry about vulnerable women watching your page and coming away feeling less than, like failures because they can't go to the gym everyday, have piles of laundry, never have time for a massage, don't have weekends away, their baby hasn't eaten 101 foods before 1, they have fights with their partner, they aren't perfectly put together every day, can't find time to do anything to their hair other than another messy bun, their bodies haven't 'bounced back', their baby has woken up 4x over night, struggle to fit in 'self care' and can't even remember the last time they had their nails done. I hope they see through your veneer of perfection and know that's not the full story. You are very selective with what you show and I wish you were more honest about that.
Now, personally for me your life looks like hell and I'm super satisfied with my much lazier, relaxed and imperfect life. But it's not me I worry about its all the young mums who idolise you and don't understand why it's not the same for them.
We don't mock because we are jealous, we mock because we are so sick of influencers abusing their so called "influence". You don't make the world a better place, you're toxic and harmful. Don't even get me started on the over consumerism, it's disgusting. Influencers aren't a protected class, you're a wealthy white woman who portrays a picture perfect life in order to gain more wealth and influence, welcome to 2022 that's the definition of a fair target in this day and age.
Also would love to say this to your face, next time you're in Australia, let's do it. Have a meet and greet, I'll be there with bells on.
I've followed you since it was just Facebook and you were just starting your weightloss journey. I had so much admiration for you. You were quite big still and made a point of showing how much joy you got out of still getting dressed up and how everyone deserves to feel special and gorgeous. You worked so hard to change your life style. I remember your personal training sessions and talking about meeting up with friends to go walking instead of drinking/eating. Then you went to America and had your first surgery, I was so impressed how you went alone and how open and honest you were with it all. I remember watching your YouTube videos and being heartbroken for you when you were in so much pain, and had that horrible nurse. Then so excited for you when you went on the Tyra Banks show. Then you went back and had your next round of surgery and again you were so honest and open about it all and the recovery, all on your own. It was super impressive.
Then it all started to change, it got to a point where I had to unfollow you for a while because you became one giant walking advertisement. It was too much. I came back a few months later and stayed while you were pregnant and now with Asher. I saw the articles about the Women's Refuge and the Colgate "white night" and the questionable practices about declaring ads. All of that put a bad taste in my mouth but nothing compared to how you portray motherhood. This is where I think you are actually dangerous and damaging.
I'm a new mother to an 8 month old. I love him to bits. My life isn't that much different to yours when you look at the basics, I own my home, my husband runs is own successful business, I grew up comfortably with money. But motherhood has kicked my ass, I feel like it does for everyone. Your portray this image of effortlessly gliding through motherhood - your postpartum was sunny and bright with only tears because you were so overjoyed. Did you have moments where you were so tired you didn't know how you could possibly keep functioning? Where you felt so frustrated because you were stuck feeding for hours? Where the house work just got away from you because you were nap trapped with a tiny baby and just wanted to stare at their little face?
Then you sleep trained. No judgement, it's not for me but every family is different. Did you let him cry it out? Was it hard listening to him cry for you and not answering those calls for his mum? Because it seems like you just put him in his crib and then your baby slept for 12 hours with no issues. Another perfect story.
My 8 month old is like Asher - hitting milestones early. I spend most of my day running around trying to stop him from severely injuring himself as he climbs, crawls and destroys everything in his path. It's awesome, hilarious and exhausting. On days my husband works from home, I cannot just pop him in with his Dad because he's climbing and wants to move, he won't be contained in a room with a parent that's on a computer, well he might but those computer cords are going to be chewed to shit. You clearly have help with him whether it's daycare or a nanny or whatever, why do you portray this image that you're this powerhouse stay at home mum who can do it all? You're not doing it all - and that's OKAY. What is not ok is showing this fake as shit life to vulnerable women who idolise you.
The image of motherhood you present through your page is a complete load of bullshit. It's harmful, damaging and is the definition of toxic positivity. Motherhood is hard, it is demanding and it takes everything you've got. It's normal to have days where you're so exhausted you can't think straight, to have days where your baby drives you up the wall. Where your baby is teething and whinging all day and won't be put down. Days where showering, feeding yourself and baby and making it till Dad gets home feels like the biggest achievement. And yes there are days where everything goes to plan and it's joyful and fulfilling.
I worry about vulnerable women watching your page and coming away feeling less than, like failures because they can't go to the gym everyday, have piles of laundry, never have time for a massage, don't have weekends away, their baby hasn't eaten 101 foods before 1, they have fights with their partner, they aren't perfectly put together every day, can't find time to do anything to their hair other than another messy bun, their bodies haven't 'bounced back', their baby has woken up 4x over night, struggle to fit in 'self care' and can't even remember the last time they had their nails done. I hope they see through your veneer of perfection and know that's not the full story. You are very selective with what you show and I wish you were more honest about that.
Now, personally for me your life looks like hell and I'm super satisfied with my much lazier, relaxed and imperfect life. But it's not me I worry about its all the young mums who idolise you and don't understand why it's not the same for them.
We don't mock because we are jealous, we mock because we are so sick of influencers abusing their so called "influence". You don't make the world a better place, you're toxic and harmful. Don't even get me started on the over consumerism, it's disgusting. Influencers aren't a protected class, you're a wealthy white woman who portrays a picture perfect life in order to gain more wealth and influence, welcome to 2022 that's the definition of a fair target in this day and age.
Also would love to say this to your face, next time you're in Australia, let's do it. Have a meet and greet, I'll be there with bells on.
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