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Something has always struck me as so off about Candice. I’m sort of stuck between loving seeing a black woman thriving in a predominantly white market and desperately wanting to see her do well, but also between this gut feeling that she actually isn’t a good person at all. That the things she so readily judges others for and rightly so (racism, bullying, elitism) she is continuously guilty of herself. From her relationship with her Mother, her Sister, even what seems a rather volatile and sometimes even resentful relationship with her young daughter Esme (which she yet again puts down to being someone elses fault, in this case her mothers and a traumatic birth). There never seems to be any accountability on her behalf. Never. If someone doesnt like her, it must be because she’s black. If she lashes out at people, its because she’s dealing with trauma caused by others. If others are dealing with trauma themselves they’re beneath her, jealous and need to keep the f**k out of her way. Its hard to support someone who seems hell bent on tearing others down with a smug smile on her face. She’s like the kid at school who’s finally been invited to the ‘mean girls’ table and after years of hating them and saying how awful they are, turns out she’s just as much a narcissistic bully as they are fucks sake!

She'll be absolutely fizzing in her pants that the blm movement is going on at the same time her book was released. And don't come at me about saying that, I'm a woman of colour and CB does not represent me and has done fuck all for black people save for lining her own pockets and pimping vulnerable women.

I’m not white, not middle class and to me she comes across as self satisfied, landed on her feet,smug and a very nasty piece of work.

Defensive to the extreme and no doubt riding the crest of wave in terms of representation and diversity. The same white middle class people she can barely stand and who she spits venom on with every post are the ones tripping over themselves to work with her to show how woke and with it they are. But how long before the tide turns? The tide always turns.

She can’t write for shit, there is knowing your own worth, loving yourself and then there is Gemma Collins. She has veered too far to the GC side of things. Sis if the white woman giveth she can also take it away. Learn some humility and some grace. You aren’t Maya Angelou you are shilling tat, making coin on an image that will no doubt be your ultimate downfall. Hope you have savings.

PoorPatrol said:

Bloody hell, her writing is awful. It’s like a teenager who happens to be in a poetry-emo phase

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I see the words on this thread. Locked on the screen, yet they dance before me. The freedom the words have inspired me and evoke memories of bygone threads. I am reminded of words uttered to me by other wise posters on the thread almost like an anthology of words but more than that words that have a meaning and a purpose.
The words are dancing in my brain with the synapses firing as they tango and foxtrot. I see the words you have all written and I am humbled to conclude that the words spell out one thing.
Candice is an idiot! Yes, there I said it and own my words!

I think being a pimp is horrendous and exploitative, but if she came out and owned it, I’d have respect for her. But she hasn’t told the truth (this is not the first time).

Full disclosure; I’m not a CB fan, I did try, but there are many reasons I just can’t follow her.

The WORST thing for me, the true showing of her character, is that while she is suffering (and to be fair she may well be suffering - she’s probably embarrassed about the revelations and really offended by CH) she’s still prepared to publicly bury someone else under a bus and step on them to get ahead. Even if someone has really hurt you, which im sure CH has, it’s still really vindictive, particularly given the platform she has. She is basically saying it’s ok to behave like that. It’s so vindictive and vindictiveness is not a sign of a kind soul.

You can forgive someone and prefer to no longer have them as part of your life; I would understand if she did that to CH, she would be so within her rights and everyone would get it and support that, but it feels like she has this rage about what someone like CH represents (again, this may be understandable), but there’s no effort to work towards love, collaboration, overcoming. It’s about punishing, humiliating, calling people out. In the end, that rage will swallow CB more than it will swallow anyone else. We will NEVER beat racism by excluding white women from the debate. Racism is actually a white issue. Yes, it’s exhausting. Yes, it’s not fair. But we can’t make progress by lying down and staying in that place. We HAVE to be able to talk about it. We have to be able to have these debates and not be screeched at for saying the wrong thing.

Also, you can say something racist and not BE a racist. You can say something and be really sorry. You can say something and change your mind. You can say something and then learn better and do better next time. But cancelling someone forever does not show that we are very cool at all as a species.

Candice could lead the narrative towards a truly positive outcome. The fact that she isn’t, that she’s swirling around in her gifted dress and dancing on someone’s “insta grave” is fucking bullshit. Unkind bullshit. And I think she’s a big bully too. Just like she’s accusing Clemmie of being.

SequinnedElephant said:

Hang on, that’s not true. I unfollowed Candice ages ago because she DOES come across as very aggressive. I unfollowed Caroline Hirons for exactly the same reason. Nothing to do with race, and I really resent that someone is exempt from being called out on their aggression just because they’re black.

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This is what really bugs me too. It’s a really funny thing, because as a black woman myself I would see her posts/stories and they would enrage me. There are very few women of colour in the popular ‘insta mum’ tribe, and i hate the fact that she is the best we have for ‘representation’. She’s an embarrassment. She IS aggressive, some of the things she says are horrific and I feel that if a white woman said some of these things, there would be uproar. The ‘pulling throat out through vagina’ quote springs to mind.
Now with all this Pimp/sex worker stuff, I just cannot get my head around how she’s managed to spin this so well. I think the others are definitely intimidated by her.

SilverSpoonNotIncluded said:

Always with the sodding word salad - what does this even mean?!

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The way she writes reminds me of year 8 english homework, where you’d write up a simple paragraph on the school computer and then right click all the words to replace them with the most long-winded synonyms to up the word count and try to make it sound fancier. She would make taking a shit sound philosophical. I’ve read a few of her pieces now and just thought fuck girl it really isn’t that deep.

Example taken from her recent post in which the jist is... “So I’ve got something in the pipeline but I can’t tell you too much about it however all will be revealed in due course..“

Candice- “Although I feel weathered by the shackles of these constant restraints, I shall hold my tongue, for I have learnt I cannot reveal the true intent of my actions with such ease and fluidity, a gift that is so readily bestowed to others.”

Writing a tirade of nonsensical bullshit does not a writer create.

Candice Brathwaite #2: She’s not any old ex-pimp, she’s an M&S (sponsored) ex-pimp

Keepitw0nky said:

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Organised motherhoods stories on racism are really good, I’d have thought this is the kind of thing CB wants

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I posted that on her ask me! I’m a “person of colour” and I found organised motherhoods post of racism not only brave and honest something a lot of these influencers are lacking. I used to love Candice but this attitude lately no I’m not feeling it. And like I said I am also a person of colour I have also suffered racism my whole life so I too like candice carry that chip on my shoulder. In fact im Muslim so that gives me the right to have a double chip but it does not give me the right to be a rude bitch!

She fucks me off beyond belief.
If you're going to address an issue publicly, then at least do it fully.
Instead of all this "your mum said, my mum said" playgroup bullshit.
You're a grown ass woman, stop speaking in riddles or don't say anything.

I had to sign up after reading this place for a while. For a time I liked CB and thought she was good. But as a WOC I think she does more harm than good. Constantly bringing race into it when it's just not relevant. It helps reinforce racism by wanting special treatment because of her race. There are issues in society but this all just feels like pitting people against people. Her lack of content or anything else to give her a USP makes her just focus on race and I wish she was more rounded and balanced.

Ceecee3 said:

I was definitely one of those people that ate up her hype when I only casually followed her and read her book. I saw her as giving a voice to some really important stuff. But she has a new controversy every other day so I started looking into them and noticing a pattern: she champions very valid causes but if she can't be centred in the narrative of the cause, she lashes out.
I don't think she is always losing out on things due to her race, I think she is vying for race based platforms and sometimes other people fit that platform better (e.g. Rochelle/white allies) and rather than supporting another BW involved in promoting education on this issue; she is hellbent on devaluing Rochelle.
When you tear down the very things you champion because they don't benefit you... what does that mean?
It's really frustrating to see more people aren't connecting these dots in her patterns and calling her out. She constantly gets away with it.
Glad I found this thread because her IG comments were making me feel so gaslighted.

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When I first heard about tattle life, I thought it must be a bunch of illiterate half wits demonising people on social media for making a living. I must say, I've had more entertainment on here in the past day than what I've had in a week You guys are really refreshing, honestly. There's more intellect on tattle than all of the social media platforms combined

Spilttea said:

To me she is the epitome of someone who grew up poor and now thinks wearing expensive designer outfits will elevate her to a different strand of society that she so desperately wants to be part of.

She would sell her Nan to be a part of the upper crust insta mums, you know the ones, they come from money and do it because it keeps them occupied in between brunch and weekends away. They won’t say no to an expensive freebie but husband and daddy’s money could easily pay for what they get given for free.

The problem is that Candy doesn’t have that lifestyle or income stream so she keeps throwing random expensive shit together that’s either gifted or bought on credit and hopes that no one notices that she has the opposite of imposter syndrome.

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I wish these black girls wpuld undersyand that being rich and having luxury isnt designer goods. Its access to private healthcare, excellent schooling, buying properties if you want so you can start generational wealth, investment. Black girl luxury is making the wave and trending on tik tok and as a black woman is annoys me as luxury doesnf mean designer clothes or bags, thats what keeps the poor poor. Luxury is making money work for you in all aspecta of life and keepinv that going for your family in builsing generational wealth Candice and Chanel Ambrose are idiots

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Let's face it Candice is a bloody pitbull. She plays the race card and this last year it's got her far. But her sense of fucking entitlement is insane! And nothing to do with any of the movements she claims to represent. As a woman of colour I find her absolutely abhorrent in every single way. She has a history of selling vulnerable, very young women. She has gaslighted her own dying mother, she's done fuck all for maternity health of black women except line her own pockets. I will celebrate EVERY decision which results in her losing out on jobs. I'm not a fan of Rochelle but I hope she's fuming and I hope the production companies remember that this is the real CB. She does not represent us in an way shape or form.

Post war? Which one, Iraq?

Candice was never asked to present it, she was simply asked last year to take part - as in, be a mum telling her story for Rochelle to interview. Rochelle was always going to present it from the start. Candice was clearly confused. Read her post again people, she didn't mention presenting it because she was never asked to, she just assumed that's what the programme makers wanted. She then snubbed the programme makers when they approached her again recently by saying she didn't want to just be featured as a mum telling her birth story, but wanted to present the whole show and if she couldn't take over Rochelles role then she didn't want to participate at all. Here we are.

Late to this debate about the documentary/documentaries. When I saw Candice’s post yesterday I had two thoughts:

1. Candice made a living exploiting women. The issue about the disgraceful mortality rates amongst black women receiving maternity care is both a race issue and a women’s issue. Candice cannot advocate on behalf of women, given her history as an exploiter of women. She is also not nearly experienced enough; no amount of manifestation or crystal rubbing is going to give her the skill needed to present an important, hopefully revolutionary documentary on the BBC.

2. Rochelle is also not the right presenter. She has the skill, likeability and the reach. But having birthed in private hospitals and as a celebrity (who will be listened to by medical professionals in any setting), makes her far removed from the situation which is attributed to so many different things.

I would have liked to see a black woman who wasn’t British born present this. Someone who had learnt English as a second language. Alternatively someone like The Doctor Mummy who admittedly doesn’t have the media experience, but is a black mother who birthed and works within the NHS, and championed this from the start.

Really not a fan of CB at all. At first when I found her Instagram I was so happy to see some diversity finally on Instagram! But reading her content, and her aggressiveness, her constant anger and self-entitlement left me very uncomfortable.

I think she does good work with the make motherhood diverse stuff, without question, it's so needed. But her personally, I have no interest in anymore. Her behaviour and dismissive attitude does nothing to help progress an important message on equality, and respect.

I couldn't care less if she did have an escort business, you can definitely tell she will always be the type of person looking at generating money from different avenues, but I agree, why not share your story with others, no one is asking for it to be an attempt to fetishise her background, but it's definitely not this 'urban cool woke mama' vibe she wants to promote now.

I also say all this as a very mixed race woman, who is married to a husband who is South Asian, and raising my even MORE (lol) mixed race child. It is deeply troubling that these are the women that want to be the 'face' of showing diversity in motherhood. I have loved ones and friends of every single race, we don't speak about cultures or people the way she does!

She's the ultimate troll.

yootubesuperstar2 said:

She claims she is a size 14.

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I am a size 6, but a 12 fits better